i have to disagree. i was in that situation. once i had the courage to let go i immediately realized how wrong i had been. i had so many questions and doubts about things while we were together but i forced the idea of getting married or that he was THE ONE. but then i was happy on my own for a while. i met my husband a couple of years later and i had not one doubt in my mind. it's like how do the anointed know they are? they just know. if they have to ask questions, they aren't. if you have a lot of questions about whether someone is the ONE, most likely they aren't. don't settle for less.