Sheesh! Sounds like a real stand-up guy. pphhhththtbb.
He's sounds like an insecure, immature, inconsiderate, rageful dolt that just does not know how to express himself in a constructive way. I would hate to see his family life.
Since you're obviously better at the job than him (based on your position, and tips, etc), you have to realize that what he's saying is just said to be hurtful. Sounds like you realize that, which is great.
Normal people are not like this, Keirsten. Even though he made it very personal, you can't take it that way. The problem is him, not you. (at least that's what i see from your side of the story ;)
As Matt said, walking away is a good solution, but, unfortunately if the dude isn't canned, that's probably not gonna be easy. There will always be people in this world that you just can't make peace with. And the best solution to those types of problems is to just not let it get to you. If that means being the bigger person and leaving the job at some point in the future, then that's ok.
I hope things work out for you :)
Thank you. I hope it all works out too. I love the job and would hate to leave it. But then again, I need to do what's best for me and my family.
I have a feeling that if he isn't fired, he'll be leaving soon anyways. He's the type of person that would quit, and then say it was because he just couldn't stand working with me any longer (oh...he did say that, hahaha), just to make me come across as the bad person.
I usually can deal if people lash out at my job performance or whatever. I have proof that I'm good at what I do, so that's no biggie. But what hurts is when they attack me personally, telling me no one likes me (which I doubt....I mean, I have you guys, right? Heehee), or that he doesn't know how I wake up every morning, blah,blah,blah.
Maybe I do need thicker skin. What's funny is, I used to be TOUGH. Like, when I went through all the mess of things when I got pregnant, sure I was emotional, but I could stand up for myself with the best of them, and I did on a number of occasions. I still can, but now I cry....a lot, hahaha.