It's more of a recurring issue but, it could be a pet peeve.
People can be really presumptuous about you and the person you actually are.
Without a solid reason other than simply, feeling they have the right to think whatever they want...regardless of whether or not it's DEAD WRONG.
This past year I've dealt with some really heavy things (still dealing even). Rather than dump these issues on everyone I meet I try to be upbeat and pleasant. I think everyone's going through something so why be a downer?. This reasoning nearly ALWAYS backfires.
While I'm trying to be positive to help myself move past the hard time I'm having; people are judging (mostly ridiculing) the person they think I am. Based on what? The truth is if I really opened the floodgates and said ALL that I'd been through and how hard it's been then I'd be looked down on for that. Like man, that sister is so depressing or dramatic.
At the other end of the spectrum it's the complete opposite, oh, she's TOO happy.
I'd almost like to sit down with these select few and say WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE ME DO? Sorry I'm not as well adjusted as you, I'm glad you're perfect. I could just stay in a funk instead of trying to overcome it and then self destruct.
We all need an outlet. Sometimes I like to get lost in my own thoughts, work and create. Other times it's nice to just wig out and get silly, it takes a lot of pressure off. I'd like to say I'm a tough cookie but, I'm not THAT tough. Things get to me.
i know what you mean. i try to never complain and don't show that emotion. i try to keep an upbeat outlook because i can't change the situation, i just have to deal with whats going on and move on.
just keep up the upbeat outlook, if ones don't accept it then let them be, who wants to be around peeps that're miserable anyway!
This is really awesome of you to try and do because we're not supposed to burden everyone with our problems. But people do assume stuff (and make themselves look stupid) and maybe think "hey this girl would never understand me, she's so happy" which is a dumb assumption but it happens.
I think I have the opposite happen with me..kinda. I'm kind of more reserved and quiet especially around people I'm not super-close to which ends up being most of my congregation. Even people I've known forever, like those in my bookstudy, make jokes about me being the dark queen and always being gloomy. I'm not being gloomy I just don't feel the need to be bursting with smiles and sunshine especially at 9:30 in the morning!
I think a lot of us have trouble finding the middle ground.