so this sunday, we're having some "adults" over for the first time...by that i mean, people in their late thirties/forties with kids close to our age. and they're all elders. i mean, i've had people that age over before, but with my parents or inlaws, so it felt different. it's just weird, cuz i know i'm married, and i guess an adult, i just don't really feel like i'm too adult-like. i always get more nervous about cooking dinner for older folks, like i'm going to be judged, because they've been entertaining for so much longer. anyways, we have some games and stuff set up, so hopefully all goes well. eek. (oh, and just on that note, some of our best friends in the cong. are in their mid-thirties, but i think it's because they don't have kids, they seem so much younger)
hahaha that kinda made me laugh "adults" well ones with kids do seem "older" no matter what age. im in my 30's (single...but you'd never guess looking and being around me) and i get a little nervous w/married peeps cause they seem "older" LOL jk
haha, it's true. your group of friends totally changes when you get married or have kids. not that you can't be friends with those in different stages as you, but it's more fun with people that can relate to you.
SOME peeps change their friends. not all couples do. my circle of friends is mixed, single and married, and marriage hasnt really changed them into different people. they're still the same fun loving peeps as they were single. the only thing, they have different responsibilities is all.
ya i agree. Also most of my friends don't have kids and don't want kids which I think is great. But for example I just couldn't imagine being in a circle of friends of like everyone with preggo bellies and newborns and being the only one not into that. So obviously you gravitate more towards people that share your interests... i don't know what my point is
you make a great points kam!!!
i think a lot of lauren's friends are baby-making factories disguised as women. because lauren seems like she's constantly planning a shower/going to a shower/thinking about planning a shower. it's insane.
ps - lauren if you're reading this - i love showers!!
i don't mean you change, like your personality, i'm the same dorky, crazy person i've always been, and i've had a lot of my friends since i was 15 years old, but i've found it a lot easier to be friends with people older than me that are married now, because you can relate to the same stuff...cooking, the same stupid things all husbands do...stuff like that. i'm still friends with single people, we just have totally different lives now.
this pisses me off to no end. i have some single friends who won't hang out with me anymore because i'm married. or something. I can't figure it out. like, if i'm not going to have all single people there, they don't want to go. i find that so annoying.
i also find it annoying the other way. like, that because we're a married couple, why would we EVER want to hang out with single people? i get that feeling sometimes from other married couples.
i just want to hang out and blow stuff up and go snow-tubing and watch nacho libre and tell people "the bible teach book is SOOOO HOT right now"
I always feel weird inviting like 1 single friend to a dinner party with all other couples. Not that I don't want he or she there, but I feel like they might be uncomfortable if it's only other couples. And older couples in our hall (who we REALLY don't want to spend time with) keep inviting us to their house since we've been married, like we're part of the club now and because we're all married we all have to be friends. It's very strange.
thats my point. like kam said you hang with peeps that you share interests, married or single. thats the way it is with my circle of friends....we have a blast together, no one feels uncomfortable or anything cause they're the same fun loving peeps they were married as they were single.
yeah people are weird!
don't stress! everything is going to go great. last friday i did a "girls night in" with all of the sisters from my cong from my age up. everyone who could make it was there. food and games. it went really well. they were all suprised when they got here at who was here and haven't stopped talking about it.
really? that's an awesome idea. i really admire you for doing that. with me, if it's people i know well, i don't get stressed. but with new people, i'm nervous. cuz i'm sure we've all gone to people's houses and have thought, ugh, how much longer do i have to stay here! haha. i just want everyone to have fun.
i've only been here 2 months. everyone thinks i'm so "city" that i won't like it here, but i'm trying so hard! my cong doesn't really get together and i'm used to my house being the place where people just pop in. we used to do girls night at the cong i grew up on. when the elders had their meeting, we would take turns having the elders wives and daughters over. and of course that eventually extended to other available sisters. it was so much fun! dominos, spoons, spades. you really don't need that much to have a good time.