This has all been helpful, guys, thanks! A more pointed question now: Would you ever avail yourself of the services of a caterer/personal chef for fancy dinners with your hottie, parties, or ...

possibly btw one wedding I shot, i talked with the caterer for quite a bit she said they just very recently did a dinner for a party of 4 the pres of Commerce Bank, his wife, and 2 guests ...

I completely agree. But the problem is, how do I get to the point where I know people like that? How do I market to that audience?

Find out about charitable events in your area... or any prestigious event.. You usually can get lists of attendees from those things.. From there... shoot them a letter.

How would I get a list of attendees?

say you're starting a benefit for hurricane katrina victims and want to find people in your area who have the appropriate amount of money

Or I could just drive down the streets with the largest houses and get names off mailboxes...