I NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER wanted a big wedding , EVER,, just my small island wedding with imnmediate family,, Weddings are truly never how the bride dreamt it, cuase everyone adds there own ideas that are said they HAVE to be done. I WISH we could Elope,, I am all for it and I support those who want to do it.!!! Its a beutiful thing! ! When its all over though for me I know in the end I will have a good time, although I also know I would have loved my small island wedding better!