selective memory
by You manage to convince yourself that you are completely over her, that she really isn't what you want, and that you don't want to be in a relationship right now anyway.
Then you see her again, and all those old feelings come rushing back. It's so hard to just turn them off, because a big part of you loves the way it feels to be smitten, even though it's not nearly enough. It's only enough to keep you starving, cold, and miserable. So you have to maintain, be a man, and resist the temptation to slip back into the clutches of overanalyzation and pointless longing.
It's like being addicted to a powerful drug. You know it's bad for you, and when you stay away long enough you can even make yourself believe it... but one look can make you forget it all.
(i wrote this from end to beginning to middle)
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Listen to anything off of Tell All Your Friends: TBS.
From a chick who was ,(I heart superhero), the poster girl for the selective memory syndrome - it really helps...
yup
sorry buddy.
yo leave me alone. i dont like you
Please take this to the stalkers forum, thanks.
matt stay away from my sister, she doesn't want to talk to you EVER
mmmmmm hmmmmm
muffy is all grown up now. muffy = fair game
Ah hem "muffy"= one of my closest friends, as supposed to a piece of meat...therefore replace fair game with potential wife
I'm kinda feeling the same way actually...
Only this week, it hasn't been so hard because some red flags went up and I'm way turned off. So I guess that would make it easier to let it die...But now I'm trying to think, how do you really back away without hurting his feelings??
it's ok *sniff* i'll be fine
Aww I'm sorry Matt! This stuff is rugged :(
1. The Perfect Drug -- Nine Inch Nails
2. "Do we play the game, or does the game play us? I live my life like a French movie."
Perfect Drug, awesome song. "without you everything falls apart. without you it's not as much fun to pick up the pieces.
yeah, you know what man, the feelings rush back .... but i have a tried and true slogan ... some of you will think it's wrong but it always works ... "nothing helps you get over the last one like the next one". And it's true - being out there, doing your own thing, working on making yourself more interesting and cultured, focusing on getting better at the things you need to work on - that's the best way.
you're an animal
lol.
Brian, how do you mean this?
being happy and content and confident makes you more interesting.
lol, at first i kind of thought he meant to get with somebody else and you'll forget about the other person.
cuz i dont know if that's a really healthy thing to do
thats how i took it too....hmmm, superhero clarify....please.
my motto is: "if you're not happy by yourself, you'll never be happy with anybody else"
meaning, while a deep relationship with somebody can make you happy, if you're an unhappy person you shouldn't ever think that being with somebody is just going to SNAP make you happy all of a sudden.
no, it doens't have to be a person. it can be anything - as long as you're moving on to something else to occupy your thoughts.
everyone else - stop reading things the wrong way.
acceptance, then void, then fill the void
yea i have to agree with superhero, and really only based on the fact that I have TOTALLY been where you've been Matt. It is like being held prisoner of sorts - but what Dan is saying is that, if you move on to the next thing, not the next person persay... but you put the energy you expend on the the prisonership in to something else. And then slowly you really do move on and completely grow as a person.
sometimes, i feel like i finally have a defense lawyer here on ezabel. it's a wonderful thing. :)
luv is blind :P
anytime - I happen to speak Superhero quite fluently. :)
I like this. Some nice honest writing. Destructive relationship cycles are somehow quite a addicting. Be strong.
I know what you are talking about. It's quite possibly one of the worst feelings ever felt. I'm sorry you're feeling it.
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omg todd.. that was some funny stuff. A+
any zoolander qoute is amazing.
hahahahahahahaah i haven't laughed that hard since like a minute ago
I was hoping this was a movie reference or whatever, because i was ready to declare: "todd...is gay."
oh man.. you're not a zoolander fan?
classic.
i love hansel
THAT HANSEL'S SO HOT RIGHT NOW I'D BURN MY FINGER IF I TOUCHED HIM
<- grins, gives the "oh you guyyyysss" look and kicks at the ground
Matt, Matt, Matt. One day before i go, you need to sit down and listen to what i have to say for like 15-20 minutes. It will help..
OH man.. I'm totally dating her now. Sorry bro. I'll take picture of us together.. and you can totally cut out my head.. and put your picture on it..
or cut out her head.. if you're feeling spicy.
hahahahahaha
thanks tai, i can always count on you to fight my battles for me
But is just seeing the person really enough? The feelings were for the person you used to know back in the day...time changes people.
They might look like the person you once knew but, in reality they don't represent any of the things they once did. Like you said the idea of them or being with them is all warm and fuzzy but the reality, not so much.