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by chuggieOG 2003
· Mar 28, 2005 · 231 views

I have a question for you. It is simply UR OPINION bein asked. Nada Mas. And it is for those of you in a relationship.

Lets say there is someone you have been dating for a considerable time. Or at least the two of you are serious. Then you see his or even her pictures of the ex-love. Not one, not two, but a few in an album. What do you do? What do you say? Or what if even you don't see them and they just tell you they still have a lot of these types of pictures in their room in a box? True, they are not on the dresser like his pictures of you that he has out.

Just a question asking for the emotional reaction.

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iwz #3 iwz

I personally think sentimental things are important to keep around, and wouldn't mind it if my wife had pictures of her ex around. They're part of her life.

If she was like framing pictures of her and her ex hugging, and putting them on her nightstand, then I would be a little weirded out.

If she had pictures of her and her ex hugging and whatever, and they were in a shoebox somewhere, no big deal. These things happened, and our memory fades. I think it's cool to have pictures of the past, it can help you remember what you were like then, or whatever.

The important thing is that your boy/girlfriend is with you now, not their ex.

ilikebirds #3.1 ilikebirdsOG 2002

you didnt make her remove our picture on the nightstand did you ?

that was precious

rocksupastar #3.1.1 rocksupastarFounder

pictures on night stands are for babies... babies use pictures on night stands...

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#3.1.1.1 toxicgirlOG 2003

i'm guessing katie doesn't have a picture of you on the nightstand? poor baby. WAAAAH

rocksupastar rocksupastarFounder

nope, but your MOM does!!!! OOHHLAY!

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toxicgirlOG 2003

haha

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brothermanOG 2004

She gets to look at his ugly mug all the time. Why put up a photo......
Cha ching........

rocksupastar rocksupastarFounder

hmmm... photos arent 3D?

well unless she wore those glasses all the time, but then people would talk...

rocksupastar #2 rocksupastarFounder

Are you new to eZabel? If so welcome. I agree with beachbum, i wouldnt care if a person had old pictures, photos are memories and if the old relationships ended ok, then one would assume they would still have pictures around...

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#2.1 chuggieOG 2003

new, no but not a commenter. commentor? i lurk occasionally..

beachbum #1 beachbumOG 2002

not all previous relationships end badly so someone might not feel the need to destroy old photos. fact is that the person was still a part of their life and memories, but that is all it is. As long as A) they are not pics of the 2 of them making out everywhere B) they are not displayed all over the house or bedroom (as you say they aren't) then no big deal.

perrin #1.1 perrinOG 2004

Yeah I would have to agree, I mean in many cases your past relationships and people you were involved to some extent are part of who you are and as such I don't see just having them around being that big a deal as long as they don't make a big thing about those pictures.

fivezero #1.1.1 fivezeroOG 2003

wow. how would you know? jk but seriously. i agree. sometimes even if things didn't end badly you gotta chuck some stuff because it's painful to have around. clean up your environment for a positive change, so that memories don't leave you in the dumps or craving an impossible renewal. theres a balance. sadly most people aren't balanced--after a relationship who's REALLY feeling balanced? i know most people will either keep it all or chuck it all. few people even care balance it.

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