The Hunt
by *stands on soapbox, clears throat -
here's what i want to talk about. apparently (through an informal survey of my family, including my cat) it's the guy's job to pursue the woman. (My dad and I were outvoted by all the females). But - in my mind - this creates a problem. One guy does not pursue only one girl in his lifetime - he pursues many. However, the selected girls who are pursued soon catch on to this game - they realize "oh wow, i'm desired", and start acting like "hey, i'm too good for these lame guys who keep chasing me." (whether they are or not is another story).
Now - there is a second group - the Guys Who Do Not Care. They surf, or skateboard, or something else, so that they are too busy to show any interest in these pursued girls. THESE are the guys that the above mentioned girls are after. All women want these guys - who don't want to pursue these girls - but here's where it makes no sense - women claim it's the guy's job to chase, yet they chase the ones who don't chase them!! DOES THIS MAKE ANY SENSE TO ANYONE???????????????????
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sounds like that gum commercial
It is way more attractive when the guy pursues the girl.
Now if the girl is being pursued by a guy she is not interested in, then it is her job to tell him that up front. I am down for the maybe we are maybe we aren't game that so many chicks play.
On this topic, it's kinda weird to hear that somebody is on the hunt (not in general) but, that they've set their eyes on sum 1 in particular..funny part is they'll prolly land the guy. Not so funny part, they don't know the person and they're mainly interested in the fact that they'll look good together =(
I vote livy starts the ezabel gossip column..
shut up, I'm genuinely concerned...this is not gossip I've niether mentioned nor alluded to anyone in particular.
i was kidding. i just seriously want a gossip column..
while we're at it--lets start a SLANDER column! FOOL!
eZabel Gossip column: Facts Not Necessary!
So I could say X Y & Zwere the hottest new item since Jolie & Pitt and bear no consequences??? LOL!!!
THis is exactly what we are looking for. And on a personal note i need some info...
Okay....
Thank you, your info was helpful. You will be paid handsomely for your good deed...
I don't think you mentioned to us dan whether or not you liked the hunt. I mean we should have a thread on that topic alone..
I love this journal!!! Its totally true! Admit it girls, the most attractive guy to you is the one that doesnt care at all about you
In the past yes...this one dude SO aloof, it almost blew my mind.
hey mickey. hey mickey
Dan it makes sense to all of those who feel they are fighting against the grain of the blonde-haired, blue-eyed guys all women fall for. But the tall dark and handsome guys can find someone for them eventually.
I think that it makes sense to pursue (whether you are guy or gal), if that is in your personality. I mean if you are not an aggressive person, being aggressive in pursuing someone will give them the wrong idea about who you are...
Finally i think that no matter what, our society is based mostly on the pinciple of men chasing, so you just have to suck it up and go for it, in your own way...
i've never gone after a blonde hair, blue eye guy. i prefer dark hair and eyes. your generalization is null and void.
I didn't say every woman. I meant only for this type. So yes i guess it's vull and noid for you cupcake.....
CUPCAKE!?!? watch it toots
dark hair and light eyes is hot too i think
dark skin and light eyes *sigh*
i think he means that all the blonde hair, blue eyed guys are taken because gals like them and that leaves a lotta dark haired dudes aside, pining.
i just find it odd. thats like saying men find blonde haired blue eyed girls more attractive. isnt attraction subjective? and isnt attraction just the first part of a relationship? for example, even if i find someone to be attractive, if hes rude, i will lose interest.
This I agree with.
Of course. We're speaking generally. We're not saying that it's the rule, but GENERALLY--it's true. Yes, rudebois walk. We know that. And, yes, it's common knowledge that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
generally speaking, "they" say blondes have more fun. my great grandmother said this is bc blondes are easier to find in the dark.
You wont loose interest, you'll jump to him like a dog running for beggin strips. Why you ask?
Because hes rude and you'll eat it up just like most girls not all of them but most girls love guys like that.
Cause they want a guy that not like gimme gimme your love baby, They want a guy thats like hurry up and give me your phone number before I dont want it anymore. Oh you took to long peace nexttttttttt.
you are the authority on me bc...? i was talking about first impressions. rude boys do not get a call back. no matter what. period. the end.
right on! you tell him!
you're forgetting something. we are all the the authority on you. we know your type. you're no different from any other gal. **laughs maniacally**
females are all alike. i get it.
my heads still spinning. coupla days ago codys being all fun and stuff in musings and now its bitter city in macking. who rained on his parade?
he's just got sugar in his boxers..don't pay him any mind.
he's got sand in his *EDITED*
omg. hahahahha
Did you see anything wrong with that ty?
that was a little confrontational, lyndz. but the word is generally a good word.
ME? OF course not. i laughed histerically because i thought i only used that term.. but there's more people like me out there.. woo hoo
i see how sand in the hey-nanoo-nanoo can be uncomfortable. insanity.
is that word not ezabel friendly? or the usage? **curious**
Dan is conservative. I think it's a very friendly word.
thats funny. generally speaking, i would think im more conservative than dan. i guess it depends on the case.
It definitely does. Dan isn't comfortable with anatomy. Not even his own.
dude. i am fine. i just thought that wasn't appropriate. this is a PG site.
True, why do we need parental guidance to be on here?
my parents allow me to use that word. dont yours?
Indeed they do, it's better then using slang words for "it"
HE HE HE I saw the original version...Dan got squirmy LOL!
for the most part. yeah.
i love when ANYONE [guy or girl] insists they are the exception to every rule. accept that you're part of the hive.
eh...we're all just sockets and plugs searching for the right fit or not.
why must you abbreviate when you know im ignorant? define please.
Bri says he imagines you talk with a lisp...twoo=true.
a lisp?! please tell him i am fully articulate.
sure thing ma. haha
The cod man just broke up with Dana . I totally agree with five zero evrybody thinks thier different from the rest of the pack and most of the time thier not. I am different cause I talk in the third person so I am the standard of coolness. Follow me I am the leader of the pack. Vroom Vroom
its hard for me to sometimes recognize a brother is interested in me without the full court press. i have to keep my eyes open wider for the nice shy guys.
I think everyone likes to be pursued every now and then. But I don't mind being the one to pursue. Tho, being inexperienced, I pursued someone I shouldn't have. I didn't get to know him well enough so of course I saw potential. For whatever reason, he backed up immediately and good thing, he should have. Not only did he turn out to be pyscho, he wasn't ready AT ALL. His true colors were icky, too. I got my first glimpse that this wasn't gonna be easy. I think we should all be flexible in our game, at least be willing to put yourself out there cuz you may have to with certain people. But you won't know what role to play until you've gotten to know the person. It depends on other things besides personality, like where they are in life and where you are in life.
let me clear my throat, uh huh, uh huh
i never was pursued, it would have been nice to experience though
i have to say i dont think it matters who makes the first move (or the second) ... i think alot of relationship stuff is about timing and its hard to plan for that ... nice when it works out though
LoL its a catch 22 because the friend zone is also the best way to have an awesome gf. On the other hand its a real easy way to get your heart broken. Because your truly dont know how good gf the she would be till u get to know her like a freind.
The friend zone is the main reason for the recent surge of emo music.
I am the master of this kinda situtaion to many stories to tell. The friend zone is like a life sentence with litte chance of parole.
fivezero is jealous of Ben Sheets.
you my friend... have issues.
Funny thing about this. I've seen firsthand what you are talking about here. It's crazy.
I'm not sure if there's a "right" or "wrong" way to go about it, but honestly, I like my method. I had been crushing on my now husband since I was 14. I finally decided he was out of my leauge, and I moved on. 7 years later, he decides he had a thing for me, so we gave it a go. Now we've been happily married for a year an a half. Now, I didn't act hard to get or anything. I kinda just never thought about it, and was happy just being his friend. I think that is the best way to start all relationships.
I also say, girls should stop being dumb. I know I'm a girl too, but I'm also guilty of having been dumb in my lifetime as well. :)
We're all dumb. ;)
ahh, but we are not all girls, therefore we are not all dumb girls...
Actually, that's not true. You know the reason guys have nipples? It's because in the womb, they all start out as....that's right....FEMALES!!!! Even before the "guy gene" takes over, you all are one of us!! HAHAHA!! So...you're all girls. HAhahahahha!!!! ;)
HAHAHAHAHA YOU'RE A CRACK UP K!!!!!
So are you saying Adam had no nipples?
haha, ohhhhh....that's clever...but he didn't have a belly button either, right? He must have looked so odd!
Yeah, I'm not sure if I'd find Adam very attractive.
even ken has a belly button!
my my adam... you're so... smooth
DOH!
Jesse, are you making fun of MY Adam, or some other random guy named Adam? ;)
pssst.....i think he was referring to adam as in adam and eve
Oooohhhh!!! HAHAHAH!!! Ok, I'm SOOOOO slow today. That's what almost 11 hours in the car will do to you. My bad! Hahahah! :)
lol, oh boy, she's loosing it
Dear, if you hadn't noticed this past weekend, I've already lost it. :)
haha, and that's why we love you :)
Oh good.....I was wondering. :)
I don't know why it's the guys job to persue. Actually just thinking about it now, my mother persued her current husband, and it seemed to have worked for her.
But anyway, I've persued and crash and burned on a few occasions. It's something that's basically gotten me to the point of not wanting to persue anything or anyone. I start thinking when the time is right I'll know, when the person is right I'll know. I kind of want the roles to be reversed for a change.
well, i think there's a problem with whoever decided who gets which job. that's the issue.
let me tell you some stories. Whom so ever decided this will be shot when the male underground finds him her. And if said person is dead, then his offspring will pay..
i can only speak for some girls, not all....
first of all the "wrong" (young and immature) girls act like that, the desire of being desired.
second, while most girls like being treated like a princess, we get a little creeped out if thats all the guy does is pursue us.
third, most girls don't like it when a guy wears his heart on his sleeve. this means that he can fall in love with anyone at anytime, he's in love with love. you want to feel special and the only one. so this can scare off a girl too
all in all, we like it if there's a challenge, we girls need to work for affection too, to know that we are worthy.
i agree with all that. yet it still makes no sense....you like the challenge...so why do guys bother to pursue...
yeah true. Most girls don't take excessive complimenting too well. However if you don't try and pursue from the beginning AKA come off strong, there is usually that thing called friends where you sort of find the right girl/guy for you. I find that usually the hard part is not finding the girl. Its finding someone you like after months and months and even years. I have had those girls that are like wow for the first 6 months and then splat they land in a puddle and its just not going to work. Basically it all depends on your personality. Its all about "Would I want me if I was a member of the opposite sex?" I have seen some really bad attempts by others who try to get by on one liner pick up lines and yadda yadda. That gets them about 10 seconds.
dude. i hate to say it but i don't agree with that at all. well i think it SHOULD be like that, but it isn't. i have a friend (female) who pulled the "i'm sorry, we're friends, if it wasn't like BAM! from the first time we met, then i'm not interested" on a friend of mine...that was SOOOOOOOO LAAAAAAME...(if you're reading this, i hope you know what you did was lame)
Wait no no no. Like you see I am not saying that being friends requires there being no sparks. Just a lot of people are so sparky at the beginning that it doesn't get them anywhere. A lot of rushers. Basically its not lame. You make friends and then sometimes it happens. Not, hey your hot, sparks fly boom boom boom. I have seen that way too many times to know that that usually ends up in tragedy. And regardless of it being lame it works well.