Rude, much?
by So, I was at the meeting last night, and I wore one of my favorite shirts. It's very "feminine"....lacy, pretty....I love it. So this older sister comes up to me and says, "You're wearing a tablecloth!"
I was so stunned, all I could say was "Excuse me?"
She proceeds to tell me that my shirt looks like a tablecloth. It was all I could do not to say "Well that's not very nice," but instead I said, "No actually it's a very expensive shirt."
Her response?
"Well, you'd have to pay a lot of money for a tablecloth like that."
I'm not sure where she was going with this, or why she said anything at all. I found her comments to be rude, regardless of what she really meant. Am I wrong to be upset? I kind of just walked away, because I was worried I wouldn't remain very Christian if I didn't, but I'm still fuming over this.
Plus, it doesn't look like a tablecloth. If anything, it looks like a doily. Duh. :)
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haha, sounds like something my grandma would say... shes pretty straight forward about things... specially when she would hit me, lol... But i guess most older people are. I guess you lose tact when you get older...
Yeah...this woman usually comes out with stupid stuff, and it's easy to ignore. But this hurt......I wanna cry. :(
i think u lost urs already =P
nah... i never had any tact to begin with... cant lose it if ya never had it.
hahaha i know what u mean! me too, I ADMIT IT!
actually, tablecloths were very beautiful and ornate in the past. i remember my grandmother and mom always had special ones for special times and alot of times they were hand stitched and lacy. dont take it so hard. what do us old farts know anyway.
this reminds me of the other night... my brother gives a #2 talk and does a nice job on the reading. then outside later, a brother says hey alex, that name you misprounounced... its pronounced ... (can't remember which name it was but it doesn't even matter). my brother's just like, oh, thanks alot for the compliment. haha, he's so funny. some people just don't think.
Yeah, I think that's what this sister's problem is. She's said dumb stuff before that been easy to ignore.(rhyme)
But this time it was personal.....you can't insult clothes and get away with it. GRRRRR!!!!! :)
I have this really great vintage dress..it's absolutely adorable! I wore it and this girl comes up to me and says "Wow..I think my grandma has the same pattern on her couch"
Maybe she meant doily. You know old people, those are tablecloths to them.
Would that have made it any better? ;)
No....not at all. :P
Women are stupid. Who cares what she said. I'd wear that shirt even more if I were you.
*Edit*
Women LIKE THAT are stupid. NOt all women are stupid. But the ones that nitpick about every little thing.... make me hurrrrrrrrl
No, you were right the first time. Women are stupid. :P
hahaha im just waiting for Lauren to agree with you... She has this awesome jean skirt.. it just looks so comfortable, and someone in our congregation who called themselves the "fashon police" decided she hated when lauren wore that skirt... she wore it more :)
I always wondered about that, is it appropriate to wear a denim skirt to the meetings? A sister in our hall gave a talk with one last week. It just made me think. It's no different then me wearing a nice pair of jeans with my suit jacket, shirt and tie.
Thoughts?
denim skirts are out. you should've taken that sister the B-school, Jesse.
heyyy i happen to like my denim skirt.
*ahem* B-SCHOOL!
hey! I only wear it to bookstudies!
What's up with that reasoning? A bookstudy is no different then a regular meeting. hehe, but I think everyone does the same thing. Sometimes I wont wear a jacket to the bookstudy because its more of a relaxed atmosphere.
B-SCHOOL for you too!
no jacket?? i only do this in the summer. i dont' know why.
yeah i feel sorry for you brothers when its hot and you have to wear the pants and jackets
well i was raised that we couldn't wear denim skirts to meetings other than the bookstudy lol
i wear mine all the time, service, book study, sunday meeting, school and service meeting... but i'm not allowed to wear it to conventions or the memorial becuase for some reason, my mother thinks you should be "dressier" for those occasions
heyyy she wouldn't let me do that over the age of like 7
Thats cause by the time the younger kids get to those ages parents are just too tired to argue anymore. :P
I think that's pretty much the case with all families. The younger kids always get away with more then the older kids did it.
except mine
I don't see how it's not appropriate. That's like saying a nice cotton skirt isn't appropriate because you could wear a nice pair of cotton pants to the meeting.
I have several denim skirts that I wear and I've never heard a word said against them.
That's my point, whats the difference between a denim skirt and denim jeans? They both look nice but I couldn't get away with wearing that to the meeting.
I'm not knocking it, so don't think me the dress nazi. :P
it all depends on the denim....length....color....style....i wear denim skirts to the meeting but it's nothing thats tacky or tasteless, so it all depends
In pioneer school I remember this sort of was discussed, and the CO's both said that denim is not appropriate for service, because it's too much of a "relaxed" type fabric, and we're supposed to be "holy" or something like that. I don't remember what they said about meetings though. The rough part was, there was a sister wearing like, all denim, and she was there that day, and it was one of the days that we went out in service that morning... eeeek...
this means i can't wear my denim suit anymore. dang. i loved airbrushed white tiger on the back...
duuuudes. we're not supposed to wear jeans. haven't you seen the pictures in the Watchtower? only the gangsters and dopeheads wear jeans. All brothers and sisters young and old wear khakis!!!.
in the past the Watchtower preferred no sneakers as well.
I always laugh at that..is that wrong? To laugh I mean. I can't help it. I don't think I know any obsessive compulsive Khaki wearers.
don't you know dan hill?
woah...that's really old...hahaha...i cant' believe you knew that julia...now i'm worried...
i just know that anytime i have seen you or a picture of you, that you were wearing kacki's. if there's a joke cool but i just observed it. i mean, even when we were playing manhunt you wore kackis.
wow. I just realized that too, Megan had a gathering when she was house sitting and I think Dan was the only person wearing khaki's. I remember thinking to myself, "we are all so worthless wearing our jeans like the dope-fiends and gangsters, while dan is upright in his khaki wearing"... or something to that effect.
so does this mean dan has a bit more style than most?
back then i had some crazy style...
ok REALLY here is the deal. back in ...98...? when you all were wearing sweatpants and jncos, i retired mine for some Gap Khakis. This was before all those stupid commercials, before the bethelites caught on...anyway, i digress. i was at bergen community college, the only kid wearing pleated pants with cuffs (wrinkle free, mind you), and then gettin some nice van huesen shirts. every day. (sometimes I ask...why did i dress like that? I don't know).
Then I moved back from England...and I was confused...because now everyone wore khakis...but some people wore cargos...but why are people wearing tight pants...while I was in Paris I stopped at H&M, and, of course, all the clothes were mad tight and ghey. so i bought some khakis made out of airbag material in a size 46 waist. and I wore those, because, i was still new and confused. (observe me wearing these in the ezabel party pictures).
So uhm there's a story. I think there's more to it but I'm not really sure. Although if I still have your attention, I'd like to say that Wrinkle Free Khakis are the best thing since sliced bread. Ball them up, throw them in the corner at night, on the floor - they look BRAND NEW the next morning. Wow.
i'm so
A) taking you shopping when you come out here
OR
B) sending you some things from here
poor guy.....LOL
Oh oh! Take ME shopping!
of course!!! I LUV to shop!!!
i love h&m. it is definetley time for a shopping trip there.
i wish we had one here =( the only one i've been to is the one in boston
the one in paramus, nj at the garden state plaza is awesome and the one in nyc is totally different. i don't really like the one in nyack, ny at the palisades center.
lynz, member when we went to the 3-D movie theater and the floor had carpeting and that HUMONGOUS h&m and the boys wouldn't let us go in there? jerks. i wanna go back there. it's the largest one i've ever seen. but i'm just so used to going to the one in paramus. i can't wait til they put one in rockaway but then everyone will start wearing it. which then defeats the purpose.
come visit me...palisades mall is right near me.
Yeah! Supposedly that's the biggest one (nyack) but that definetly can't be because I've been in the NYC one and that's three floors. WAAAAY too much clothes to even look through.
we NEED to go very soon. i am runnig out of clothes.
you really should stop wearing table cloths
I probably woudlnt' have said "it's a very expensive shirt"
probably because I don't hve any expensive shirts.
But I have this one shirt that was kind of expensive but I can only wear it when I'm tan, otherwise it looks really retarted. So yeah i need a tan.
it would have been super funny if instead you just said "yeah, i love tablecloths, my great-grandma made this for me, out of the tablecloth they used at her wedding, and she's dead now, thanks for bringing it up"
HAHAAH!!! That would have been great!!
on a serious note, don't be offended. Just let it slide, dance with her next time you get a chance, and tell her her shoes are nice, even if they're ugly, cos old people wear ugly shoes those huge shoes like a nurse. And kill her .... with kindness. Haha.
You're right!! Her shoes WERE ugly last night!!!
That's great!
ha ha, nice!
Actually, this is the same sister who, right before my grandma had a triple-bypass last year, asked me how my grandma was, and I said not good, and she just came right out and said something like "People die in surgery all the time" or "people die from that all the time," or something stupid like that. I literally had to run to the bathroom to keep from crying.
ahhhh so she has a pattern of this destructive behavior!!
see so it's definitely not you. She lacks tact, or maybe she lacks tacks? i'm not sure. Either way, to be upset over someone who is "just that way" is a waste of time and emotion.
If I got upset at everyone who ever said anything rude .... then I would be all wrinkled up like a grape from being bitter.
I duno, I don't care, just be jolly and think, it's not me, they had a bad day, or a bad life, and it doesn't matter what they say, i'm happy and gay.
LIKE A GRAPE???? that doesn't make sense. I meant like a Prune. Or Raisin. Capitalized for capitalism.
Yeah.....truth be told, I'm already over it. I think it just helped to vent about how dumb it was. :)
this is so true! she's probably miserable herself....
there's this one elderly sister in my hall who sits way in the front and by the time i'm done talking to everyone else, i'm ready to go so i rarely make to the front of the hall. so one day i finally made my way and said "hi sister nesbit" and gave her a hug. Her response "oh it's so nice to finally see you at meetings again...." she thought i wasn't attending so i was totally offended and my response: "no i've been attending every meeting, i just had no desire to talk to you" one of my elders was standing near by and he had to walk away cause he was laughing so hard.
haha, that's too funny, i'm sure we can all relate.
Hahaha....that's great. I had to try really hard to keep from saying something rude yesterday, but man, I wish I could have said something!! Go you!!!
LOL it was a total "off" day for me, also it was years ago.....although i am pretty blunt
i'm sorry hun, that was rude of her, then again some elderly's are too blunt and rude! She older doesn't realize what's "in" and from the sounds of your blouse, you are SO VERY "IN" - let it roll off and know that you're the fashionista in your hall!! =)
Hahaha...Yeah! My fashion sense is AWESOME!!!
pics+divx of said Doily. thanks.
Id put money down on this one, this kid is right he knows what hes talking about he has the thoughts of a superhero
I think women reach a certain age and they just decide that rules of etiquitte don't apply to them anymore. Women in the truth are not exempt from this theory. (I know I'm looking forward to that age). Sisters have said really inappropriate things to me before, too. You can't let it get to you.
I think women in the truth are worse than those not in the truth... One thing that bothers me is this one older sister in our hall whos really short like 5'2 or so and everytime we go out in service she ALWAYS sits in the front, even when there are really tall people.... that always aggravates me a bit...
hahahhahahah you're SUCH a meanie, maybe she gets motion sickness by sitting in the back
do you know who im talkign about?? i dont think she does.... i remember once a long long time ago she was in the back seat! i only saw it once!
did you take a picture???
no i dont have a camera
It's kind of funny but a lot of older people just don't seem to have any tact. They say whatever comes to their mind at the time. It's good you took it in good grace. :)
was it red and white like the older tablecloths?
Hehe...no, no checkered patterns. Actually, it's beige, and it's similar to the stuff doilies are made out of, with tiny beading on the sleeves. Very cool. Not tableclth-like at all.
you should buy her a table cloth, wrap it up all nice, and give it to her next meeting
you should have heard how she compared your skirt to a bedspread.
hahaha youre so wacked.
Just an update.....I went out in service for an hour this morning, and I wound up working with this same sister....maybe that's Jehovah's way of telling me to get over it. :)
wow thats so good! was she nice?
Hehehe...she was....typical. I think she has diarrhea of the mouth or something. She just comes out with all this retarded stuff. I ignored her half the time.
It tested your endurance. :)
You are so not even kidding.
No I'm seriously not. There are just some people that are like that. It takes every bit of self control not to go off on them. I've dealt with it many a time with some people in my hall while working out in service with them. It's a test of endurance. ;)
it sure did huh?
Did she compliment you on the table wear you wore today? maybe your jewlry looked like forks or something?
Well, I wore a long black skirt, so she could have something about how it resembled the drapes in her house or something. Who knows. :)
maybe she's like my grandma...she thinks she's cute and can get away with saying rude things. LOL, I remember when my grandma would say (in her little spanish accent) "here you go, this is for the pimples", while handing me a jar of Stridex at the Kingdom Hall or bookstudy in front of everyone!!!! How embarrassing!!
Oh, and in case you can't read what she said with a spanish accent, here's a translation of it: "here you go, thees eees for thee peeeemples".
Grandmas!
Hehehe...I speak Spanish, so I totally can envision that being said, with the accent and all.