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by i never do this.
behaving badly gives me a really cold, completely alone feeling that can only be done away with through comfortable interaction with the persons who've born the brunt of it. my friends are stung, but they won't make a big deal out of it. i'm sure they didn't expect such insensitivity and inconsideration from somone in my position.
two friends of mine are getting married. soon. i'm the best man. still, thru some perhaps ADD induced lapse in judgement, i find it appropriate to rattle off, in their midst, a pre-relationship encounter involving another woman. the bride, of course, is tearfully upset. the groom, naturally, is embarrassed. and as for me? i'm a jackass. sometimes: i have no control.
my girlfriend was really annoyed over it too.
i'm home by myself. the cold alone, feeling steals over me. this moment, i just don't feel like i'm socially fit to interact with other people, so i don't pick up the phone. though, i'd certainly accept a friendly phone call and/or a nice companion to spend time with. tonight, i don't think my girlfriend is an option. i'll have a sammich and watch the sunday stew on mtv.
tomorrow, i'll be the nicest man alive. honest.
i never do this.
please tell me other people behave badly sometimes!
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I behave bad all the time and I always want to kick myself (sometimes I do!) afterwards. Or even while I'm saying said stupid thing in my head I have a chibi-lindsay that is super deformed going "sttoooooppppp!!!!!! NOOO!" and then it berates me for opening my stupid huge mouth.
Sometimes you just let things slip because I don't think I know anyone who is thinking 100% of the time..most of us it's like in the 30's range I think.
I think just the fact that you feel this badly over it proves that you are a really nice guy who just messed up a bit. It could have been worse and since your remorseful about it you aren't being a jerk just someone who opened their mouth and spoke very inconvienetly!
thanks, lindsay. and thanks for the chibi reference. there was a guy i used to work with we called Chibi, because he looked like chibi-trunkz from dragonball gt or something. i laughed so hard when i saw that. myself? i have many chibi-brians talking all kind of nonsense...
Childhood is over. I know you make mistakes and no ones perfect. Seriously its not how you are, its who youre with. That reflects who you are. Your surroundings reflect that. Maybe its time to hang out with some older persons who got their head on straight. It may rub off on you or something
Maybe I'm misunderstanding what you're saying, and if I am I'm sorry. But I don't see why he has to go and hang out with older people who "have their head on straight." I don't think I know anyone with their head's on straight. We're all sinful and like you said we all make mistakes. It's not really always a..err the word is missing in my brain..something of whether you're older or younger. There are some older people who would lose their head if someone wasn't there to remind them to use it just as there are some younger people who somehow have it almost all together and are always ontop of things. I think it's the older people who sometimes say the most offensive and make the most mistakes socially and everyone excuses them because they're older and losing their minds. And then there are kids who are offensive A LOT and not by mistake but just because they're brutally honest and haven't learned the need to keep their mouth shut sometimes. So really..everyone, no matter their age, makes such mistakes for different reasons. I don't think it's a matter of hanging out with those who are better socially and don't make such mistakes, that's not something that can rub off on you it's just something you have to learn- tact.
you're AWESOME hun!
no im not saying that none of this is or isn't true. Just you know there comes that time to grow up and put things in the right place. Like since I have taken on more responsibility, I dont really care too much for the old stupidity of being young any more. I mean I still can get out the craziness when I want, just I got more practical things on my mind like how things work, special projects, service etc... Just it seems a lot of people never seem to get past the holy cow im young lets listen to loud music and have fun all the time. And thats sort of what I tend to draw away from now. Like you grow up and don't want to be stupid any more. But thats just how I see things. Its not for everyone. And the only reason I mentioned hanging with older ones is because I dont relate too well to young ones any more as I used to. I have fun but not the stupid fun I once had all though it was good while it lasted.
The thing is though, there was absolutely nothing in this journal that said that he wants to have fun all the time and listen to loud music, there's noting about having stupid fun or being crazy.... plus the age of the couple wasn't revealed, how do you know they're not 47 years old?? And the way the journal was written itself was kinda mature and showed a lot of emotion... And there is nothing wrong with having fun, heh. And just because you get "older" doesn't mean you should stop wanting to have fun, or stop having fun. I know a couple elders who get crazier than I do.
Also... older people sometimes say more inapropriate things than young people do, and also they get offended more easily and hold grudges against each other ... I duno, it's all relative. I don't think age has anything to do with ANYTHING really. It's all about how you feel and how you act, the year on your birth certificate has NOTHING to do with it.
ok dudette. Click fivezeros history in the ez search. You will find plenty of indicating evidence that reveals he is like 23 years old or something like that.
right but the couple who's getting married, we have no idea how old they could be....
who said you can balance your dealings with practical things and have crazy fun. what life is about.. just focusing on boring stuff makes john a boring boy. you do your homework then you party. you pay your bills then you party.
i don't think you know who i am and i'm fairly certain you've never met me. but i understand what you're saying, even tho i think your tone and execution is condescending and a bit combative.
i made a mistake and i was takin' it hard. now, everything is ironed out and it was agreed upon that all parties involved overeacted a bit. thanks for heads up tho.
what's your real name?
i'm sorry this happened =( but you know what, you're not alone....it's happened to all of us (quite a few times with me) and like lyndz said, you're remorseful about it and you weren't being a jerk intentionally.....it was just a faux pas. it happens. As long as you've realized and you'll know next time.
I have to remind myself "just cause it sounds good here (points to head) doesn't mean it'll sound good here (points to mouth) =)
Fact: Honesty and openness are probably the MOST important things in marriage, because they are the key to communication, which is the key to trust and love, which really is the KEY to a successful marriage.
Fact : An engaged couple should know everything about each other and each other's past "encounters"!
Fact: The bride-to-be should find this stuff out from the groom... not the best man. Ouch.
Fact: We've all done this, many times, and it's gonna be ok. If I could only count the times that I've said something inapropriate that I SO BADLY wish I could take back.... I would be counting past five that's for sure. haha.
Fact: If the bride is so upset by this that she calls off the wedding..... Ouch.. but perhaps that means they shouldn't be getting married, if they're already keeping things from each other and not being completely COMPLETELY honest and open!
Fact: i have no idea who this married-couple-to-be is, so I am a completely neutral person in this matter.
Conclusion: Yeah you messed up, but don't feel THAT bad. Heh. And if I've misunderstood the situation at all and I'm way off here, then um, i'm sorry. Thank You.
Actually, this makes me think of another thing..tell the bride-to-be to get over it. Most people do have pre-marriage relationship encounters with people of the other sex..it happens. Silly girls.
Uh-oh...someones trying to sound like a Nick Hornby or Chuck Palanihuk book..haha.
dude i love doing this to my bro or at least teasing him like i'm going to.
There should only be ONE story that any man or woman has kept from their significant other when they are engaged. I'd think there should be none but one is allowed. I think more people should grow up and learn to mature with the stories they hear.
But don't listen to me, i'm not ever married or engaged and i gots no woman...