Get Over It Already
by So, here's a question...why is it so hard for people to let go of issues and grudges? Why does it seem that, if something comes up between people, even after the issue is resolved, over and done with, things still don't seem right? Aren't we encouraged to do that "loving one another" thing that is mentioned in the bible? I know I'm sure trying my hardest. I guess I just get so frustrated when I know that I'm making an effort (however big or small), and it doesn't seem that others are too.
Seriously.....we all have to live with one another in the new system....why can't people start with the "getting over it" now? Practice makes perfect....you know? Sheesh.
Thanks for letting me ramble. Just working on getting over some things myself. :)
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its true people should do that and its easy to say but from personal exp i think its our imperfect nature(or atleast i hope)that makes it very difficult to let things go and almost impossble to forgive and FORGET like we should
Yeah....that stinkin' being imperfect thing...me no likey. :)
no one does but for now we are stuck this way
Yay for the new system!!!!!
thats the truth
Hehhee...the truth....heheheh....I get it...:)
i know i have that problem and have to work on it but... i try
2 words....IMPERFECTION & IMMATURITY
hey immaturity has nothing to do with it now if you will excuse me i have to go and storm off to my room!!:)
Don't forget to slam the door and scream "I HATE YOU" while you're at it. ;)
oh yeah i forget about that thanks for reminding me.
I don't always understand this. Like, how can people not forgive each other? It's always been pretty easy for me. People mess up, I mess up..it equals out, and even when it doesn't it shouldn't matter. I think the hardest part is forgetting. I have a lot of situations where I have forgiven the person a long time ago but the memory still hurts a lot and I still haven't forgotten.
I agree. I used to have pride issues when I was younger, and sometimes I still have trouble admitting when I'm wrong. But if it's obvious that I am, I will own up to it FO SHO!! I guess part of me just expects that, because I am trying, everyone else should be too. Maybe my thinking is a little skewed.
we had a talk on that one about forgiving and forgetting. it truly is hard but its somethign we have to practice cause of our imperfection.
Also, things have been done or said to me in the past, that have REALLY upset me. I have been thinking a lot about this lately, and I've found that it's part of the reason that I clash with some people. Not TOTALLY my fault that it's that way, but I will fully admit that I've been guilty of the not forgiving and forgetting thing in the past as well. But hey.....I'm an adult (even though not everyone sees it that way), I'm married, and being a mom has matured me in ways a lot of my friends don't/can't understand. There just comes a time when you have to say to yourself, "Self, grow up."
what about situations where the person keeps offending you, even though you've forgiven them the past 48 times? sometimes i get frustrated...act like you want to be forgiven ok??
Yeah, that gets tough. Start keeping a tally sheet! ..oh..um and then burn it to show your forgivness yeah!
even up to 77 times you should forgive your brother
But that 78th time is when you get to punch them in the jaw!
and that's comin up next tuesday!! schweet!
well it usually depends on stuff. Sometimes you forgive a person but you have this idea that that persons a complete moron stuck in your head. I mean would you really feel like hanging with someone you had a grudge with? Not really. And for that matter it also depends what that other person did to make you mad or what you did to make them mad. I mean imagine if some guy stole some other dudes girlfriend. But then hes forgiven but is still doing th same junk with your girl. You wanna hang with this dude? No thanks see ya later.
Hahaha...you really hit home on this one....seriously. You have no idea how much I agree with the latter part of your comment. :)
yeah well I dont blame you. Some dude did that to me. Although the girl was about as much quality as 1985 Toyota with hardcore mileage.
thats what happened to me....I liked this guy and my best friend knew, and started "being just friends" with him, and we didnt talk for 9 months, and now she has apologised to me, but they are stil "friends" and i wont speak to him, and so its hard for us to be friends, but we keep trying. It is really hard for me to know that yes she hurt my feelings, but she also apologized, even though she didnt stop doing what was hurting me. And dont even get me started on the guy! lol
all i heard there is blah, blah, blah "my name is adrian monk please wash out the blender with bleach".
you are rude!!!!! Im not speaking to you.... Thats the last time i let you wash my car!!!
aww, what a nice brother....uh, cousin...uh...or maybe you guys aren't related after all
yeah!!! im not related to him!!!!!!!! i like that much better! lol
i think if you hold a grudge you want to or the other person wants to. If you really wanted to both make up it would happen, not easy, but gradually or even sometimes right away..
there's a girl that never knew me but hated me and she talked about me so badly. well i never talked to her never looked her way, never mentioned her name - nothing.
she never had friends either (hmmm wonder why) anyway she started to hang out with one of my aquaintances so when she was around from then on i would be cordial....so one day i decided to talk to her about why she was saying so many mean things without knowing me or anything about me. she danced around the subject and i just figured, heck, i'll be the bigger person and forgive and forget. So i did. well the booger started talking about me again because i was friends with a brother that she liked and thought i was "in her way" - haha whatever chick - so i decided this girl is SO not worth the time and energy.
Well i ran into her at memorial and she ran up to me and gave me the hugest hug adn chatted with me like i was her best friend. so i decided forgive and forget, BUT i'm still not able to trust her.
i think you should beat her up and then report her for being ugly!
i tried to kick her....but i didn't think it would go over to well during assembly....LOL
I feel like kicking people lately!!
i'm with you! lets start a "kick" club!
Hahah YES! In my mind I was like "Hmm..would Jehovah really mind too much if I just went around giving people a few hard kicks to the shin?"
why is it women have to be evil? why can't they just let it go? But NOOOO, once again we have an example of a woman who just can't let it go...
Because girls are stupid sometimes when it comes to stuff like that. We're all guilty of it at one point in our lives....we've all, or we will all, do something or say something dumb. It's part of a growing up process. :)
thats the point, "part of growing up"....BUT when you're in your twenty's/thirty's it should end.....sadly with some it doesnt