double life
by I think one of the worst things a person can do is live a double life. Because its not just a one time, man I messed up kind of thing, but it's an ongoing and never ending thing. You're not just telling one lie, or a lie to cover up a lie, or even a series of lies. When you're living a double life, every word you say is a lie; your life is a lie.
This person acts like they are your friend to your face, but they don't really care about you. They know exactly what they're doing, but at the same time try to act like everything is cool. This person can't be happy because they don't even know what it is that they want, which is ironic because this lifestyle is motivated completely by greed and appearances. This person tries to please everybody but doesn't care if they rip the heart out of the people that really love them. Eventually they learn that they will not be happy living this way, but by that time they will have alienated their friends.
I can deal with a liar. The person that lives a double life is the person I hate most.
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No one who lies to you cares about you. Lies don't protect they hurt.
aww, man, idk you really but i know what this feels like. (((hugs))) i think lying is the worst. being honest is the only way to be happy and successful.
i agree frest...liars may say they are protecting you or think they are protecting themselves, but really are hurting everyone.
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i apologize , i love you
Haha, that literally made me laugh out loud.
i can't stand liars. basically thats what ones who have double standards are, liars.
is someone being two-faced to you?
i'm sorry =(
just something i needed to get off my chest, i feel good now :)
I can forgive a lot of things from people but for some reason forgiving someone who has lied to my face about things I have a lot of trouble forgiving. The worst is when you find out they lied to your face because they thought lieing to you was the best way to settle things. The thing about that is it doesn't settle things just makes things get worse and last much longer. I need to stop ranting in this journal. lol
yeah, they think lying is the best decision when in fact it's not because it creates SO much unneccesary drama. even though the truth hurts i can deal with it oh so much more and get over it like it never happened than if i know someone has lied to me.
Thats what happened to me... A close friend started "not dating" a guy but not telling me what was going on. This happened about a year ago, and things still arent the same.
matt, i've always been upfront with the fact that i hated you. i don't see a problem. let's settle this in the ring.
kick him while he's down why don't you =(
yo, gina, i don't get this, everyone rips me on this site (and no one does it worse than matt), i try to joke around, and i get all these sad faces... is it the way i do it?
its ok dan, i'm not mad at you. you're not worth it. hahaha... jk dan, you're worth it
and I appreciate that dan!
If someone is like that then they were never your friend to begin with and honestly now that you see what they are all about you are better off without them.
There are a ton of people who care about you - you don't need someone like that around anyways. I gotta agree fake people rank in my top five things I cannot stand.
You know what sometimes makes that difficult, though you see them and know them for what they are others you are friends with don't always see it and will continue to hang out with them so it can be hard to stay away from them without alienating other friends.
I cannot tolerate lying. I agree that people who lie to you do not care about you and it really really sucks. Being close to someone who is hiding stuff from you and living in their own little world of lies, is pretty much equivalent to being kicked in the stomach over and over again, by a large horse.
I don't care what the excuse or reason is. I do not keep people like that in my life.
Such a good way to describe it I'm going to have to remember that one the next time I have to confront someone who has been lying to me about things.
matt, if you need to talk, just give me a ring. Sometimes we just have to vent.
It's really unfortunate that so many of us can relate to this sittuation.
The reality of it is that we are so close to the real life but, those that choose to lead double lives have lost sight of that fact.
Nothing gained in this system of things could be more valuable than our lives we have dedicated to Jehovah.
Very well said. :)
the irony is that they don't really think they are hurting anyone else and/or don't realize that their selfishness will hurt many others...
Yeah exactly because they tend to think they you would do the same thing if you were them.
I lie to you because i love you
I tried to be very honest, especially with my family because I want people to be able to trust me knowing in turn that I can trust them to tell me the truth. With friends sometimes it can be harder because you don't want to hurt people with the truth always but as was brought out telling the truth is less hurtful in the end.
Double lives are ghey. Have the balls (can I say that?) to be who you want to be and stop pretending. Why bother?
Sometimes I think it just comes down to being selfish and them thinking they are getting one over on you and getting ahead. For some reason people like that just tell themselves life is a game and that everyone cheats once in a while to get ahead and then they think it's all ok.
and they just want the benefits of being in two worlds. act one way with some people, act different with others being all crazy. but by doing that even though you think everyone wins, you already lost your true friends and people in the truth.
Sometimes poeple are divided. THey love one way of lifethat;s good, but somethign is pulling them another way at the same time, and it's really hard for them to get back to bein true even if they wanted to
i lead a double life. i am a double agent. this message will self destruct when you read it. in fact, you've already exploded into bite size microbes.
I totally understand. Dealt with something similiar very recently. I can't understand how someone can be like this.
In the great words of popeye I am what I am and I eats me spinach.
It's really sad when someone lies to someone else and you know. You try to tell the person, but they believe the liar instead of you. This is double the pain.
This is sooo true...recently placed in this exact sittuation.
Basically I could either believe my "friend" (who turned out to be the liar) or my sister (who my friend tried to make look like the liar). It definately left an impression.
This has been making me so sad lately.