guilt
by i have to get up in 4 hours to drive someone to the airport. But here i am.
What if you had something that happened, not bad, but not great a couple years ago and you wanted to apologize? Is there someone you just wish you could go back and say you're sorry to? I mean i was thinking, I complain a lot myself about getting my heart broken, but i know i did it to someone ONCE. Only once, and it still bugs me. No closure, no reason, just no more calls, cuz i was a coward. It was in the best interests, but good reasons don't make bad actions good.
Now i know 1)i'll never see her again, and 2)this is something that no one here needs to know, because it does soil my reputation, but it pops up every now and then in my head and i always want to just say i'm sorry. But there is no way for us to get in contact with one another. I don't need forgiveness, just so that it is known i wasn't as good as i could have been. Am I alone here?
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this happened to me once, but instead of apologizing to my cat, i ate him. with fried rice
I'm going to appologize right now... I'm sorry I saw this comment. :-(
R I P -Kitty
lets cuddle
maybe she's stressing out over it and she's been waiting for an apology. or maybe she sucked it up and got over it--LIKE YOU SHOULD! jk
hey, pat. I had an experience like this, and I found the guts after a couple years of guilt to talk to her, and apologize, and it only helped a little bit. And we are on friendly terms, now, but when we talk/hang out, she teases me about the past. So I still feel guilty sometimes.
Something similar happened to me. This guy made me feel really guilty and I kept apologizing and tried to be his friend. I realize now, a few years later, that I shouldn't have apologized because I didn't regret my decision. It wasn't my fault that he felt bad; that was just the way he felt and he needed to work it out on his own. Regrets are worthless.
Not to discourage you...but I tried to apologize once and it didn't work out. I feel better that I said something to him, but he has a hard time being friends with me now. I don't blame him. I was a selfish jerk.
Ive been on the other end, and there is definitly one person that I would like an apology from. Not that it would make any difference. I just want to know that he could make an apology. I think that shows humility. Like even though its been so long, it shows depth. It probably wouldnt create another friendship, but it would add respect. (This is all my own opinion and based on my own experiences)
i mean you should do whatever it is that makes you feel closure with this whole situation. I mean sometimes in life, the closure comes from just moving on. We don't always get that chance again -
Memories or thoughts will always be filled will questions.
The point is... you wished you could right a wrong. It would be nice to have some type of time machine to correct our past, but thats what the futures for..to learn from past and try your best the next time around.
hmm there are always things that we can't go back and change. Sometimes it is too late and then you learn a hard lesson. If there is ever the chance to turn things around I would do it though if I were you. But the important thing is that you have to come to a realization which is better than a hardened heart.
YOU MORON!! You better not be thinking about calling, or i'm going to play soccer with your noggin. There are only four possible scenarios. Lets break it down in plain ingles..
1)She is dating and doesn't care: No biggie. But her boyfriend will have to suffer thru a week or so of "why he was so bad". She is happy and all you've done is ruined her day. He runs to her side and tells her while he's not as smart, funny, good looking or even as tall as I, he is there now and that is all that matters.
2)She is dating and does care: Way to go homewrecker. You've accomplished what Dan can only dream of. She remembers why you were so wonderful and can't remember why she hated you these last two years. And you can bet that the thing between him and her is soon to be over, and when she learns you were just being nice and goes crawling back to him, he's not a happy camper. THeir life never gets any happier, whether or not they continue.
3)She is not dating and doesn't care: Hmmm, she is pissed off for a week or five. Goes running into the arms of the first man to give her attention for his affection. She has moved on and thought you had, so whatever respect she had for your no good behind is now gone. She thinks you are the same selfish, egotistical spaz as before, but worse now if that is even possible. You however start feeling worse than when you realized you were such a jerk and remember why you stopped calling her in the first place.
4)She is not dating and does care: Bravo casanova, you've broken her tender heart AGAIN! She has been waiting for your call for quite some time now. And she takes your pitiful, self serving apology for an attempt to rekindle a flame that was smoldering at best. When she realizes once again you are not the one, and your pathetic attempt to sleep at night is not an engagement proposal, she gets majorly down, and either takes out everyone in her walmart, or gets on a plane here and shoves a cheese log down your throat until you apologize and then threatens to de-skin you with a cheese grater unless you agree to wed her and live shackled in her basement the rest of your pitiful life.
Well how do you like them apples senor sorry? NO? Don't wanna do it? No guts? Loser! I knew you weren't serious about makin amends...
umm, are there two little patricks inside that brain fighting each other?
No this is fun. Tho, not exactly healthy to call yourself a MORON! I loved reading this...it's worth reading at least once more. O the words unspoken. If you ever do get the chance, say it.
whooohooo i got a mention!
can someone throw him a bone?
j/k BFF!