Platonic Relationships
by Do you think it is possible to have an opposite sex relationship and it totally be on a friendship level.!
I think its completely possible!
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me and you stef . what now . whoop whooop.
ha,exactly,
so we prove the system wrong. i win.
we did prove the system wrong, lets hang out and get drunk...lol..joookiiinngg people
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hence the joooooooking people
don't insult us...we know ub illin
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actually my mom is pretty funny. last saturday night ... i was out, you know pretty late. anyway ... naomi "somehow" leaves her retainer, hair pin things, and ring in the back seat of my truck. sooo the next morning i have to drop my mom off at the shop. anyway ... at that point i had retrieved the retainer, ring , and hair pin and put it in my cup holders. anyway my mom sees and goes " what girl did you have sex with this time back there" , " i can't believe you had sex and she left all this stuff"... of course i laughed out of sheer SHOCK that she said it so bluntly. WITH MY SISTER IN THE BACK. so of course i adamantly.. yell " there wasss noooo sex" of course she doesn't listen, and the whole ride to the shop i hear " i can't believe she left all that stuff cause you had sex", " i can't believe you had sex" .
hahahahhaha,, is that for reall...lol.....that is really funny
totally seriuos. my mom thinks i'm a male slut. every night i go out she's always like " ohh why do smell good.. for a girllllll ? " " why did you put on clothes.. for a girlll " why this why that ugh... it's really funny though.
Ha Ha, oh thai, i so wish i was there to witness these sayings from your mom!
UPDATE. Funny part ,also, is when i Told the girl about it. ANd the girl had a similiar experience.. she told her brother that she had left her retainer in the backseat and he brother flipped out " whoa what did you do back there... you ddin't just take out your retainer for no reason. you did something, you better not tell anyone else you took your retainer out " ... hahah good times.
Why did she take her retainer out, why did she even have her retainer in?, im curiuos now? Not that I suspect anything, cause I know you better then that thai, but why?
no comment. move alone. thread finished.
I see
your mom sounds like my dad...the other night my sister asked me which top she should wear and my dad says why does it matter where are you going who's going to be there...i was like dad we're going to 7-11 mel asks me which top to wear when she's going from upstairs to downstairs
ha ha
parents just don't understand
Im gunna cherish this story forever and ever and ever , its just to funny!
i don't know whether to believe this story
oh it's the truth. i was close to recording it on my phone so that i can share it with the world.
and then u woke up?
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It's possible. If it wasn't, I'd be a major slore by now. I have been blessed - 99% of my friends are guys, and they are all fabulously incredibly goodlooking, especially Thai. And we have never had relations. So yeah it's possible.
hahahaha hahahahahah hahahahha
whats so funny ?
yeah, my whole life has been guys, guys guys, as friends, only the past 2 years have i had a girfriend!
yes, but you can't be romantically attracted to the other person, or be dating or married to them.
and you have to be of the opposite sex.
yeah, definitely. most of my friends are guys. growing up it was like i had all these brothers (i mean other than my real ones).
so you're saying you never felt anything between us? i'm hurt.
i never said i didn't think of NONE of them as more than friends ever ;)besides, you have ryan and dave-i think I should feel hurt!
absotootly...cept u can't be hangin' out alone cuz the platonium will splode
this is when somebody quotes the YPA book haha....i definitely have guys as just friends-but the truth is, in most cases, if you have a friend of the opposite sex you find something about them attractive. admit it...to yourself at least.
nah, I dont agree with this AT ALL, i can see how it "can" (can meaning, if your ridiculous) be a danger but it also is completely possible to have an opposite sex best friendship!!
i didn't say it was impossible
true, but im just saying, it is made out like it is an impossible situation to have!
i think u have to have friends of both sexes just to be well rounded...but u can't be alone together.
i duno about that, cause there were numurous times me and dean would go on day trips and it was nothin , nada, pure friendship!
let's just call it a general rule...but not always the case
true true
dean rhys. not me. let's be clear on this.
I used to hang out with Jjonathan alone all the time and we were cool with each other, but looking back now, I think we would have done things differently. We were just too slow to figure out that people would have a problem with it - I could see why, too.
I have to agree with you on this, Forreste... it may be something you find initially attractive, but then that feeling mellows as time goes on and you find that attraction, balanced with the person's other qualities, turns to friendship.
nope one always starts liking the other one in more then a platonic way, even the Society has said that its not a good idea
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not true at all. it doesn't always happen and you have proof of it right on this page.
fiiiiiiiiiiiight!
GET A LIIIIIIFFFFFFEEEEE! disagreements don't always = fights.
ouch. that was pretty harsh. i love it. welcome to the crew. lets just start making fun of everyone.
i thought we pretty much did that anyway. i'm feeling so sick this week and it makes me even more irritable than usual-not that you can tell or anything.
i know...i was hoping u'd throw a punch tho...if we were in the cafeteria, i'd yell food fiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight! (since we weren't, i didn't)
read the article and its happened to me too many times
i've read the article and i'm not saying it doesn't happen. i'm just saying it is not the case 100% of the time. depends on the person.
Exactly!
same here---i hear where you're coming from
entirely. somebody asked me the other day among my group of friends who likes eachother. i looked at them like they were crazy like what are you talking about??? we're friends, we don't develop crushes on eachother. we love everyone equally. like we hang out together all weekend all the time and nothing ever happens because we just can't even justify the thought of taking it there.it'll be like 4 girls and 5 guys just chillin all the time and nothing ever happens.
jesse hughes lights my fire julie!!!
It's funny, I have more friends now than ever who are male, but I've always been more comfortable around females (prolly since I only have fleshly sisters and never had a strong father figure in my formative years)-- I seem to get along better with them. Of course, that's a danger when the friends see me as a divorced brother socializing with the sisters, so I'm forced to balance more now... anyway, I'm rambling..
i know what you are saying and it's unfortunate that it has to be that way. i've always thought that people should mind their own business, esp if you aren't even doing anything.
Yeah, but it is a danger to be isolated with a member of the opposite sex--we're warned about it so many times... but this is stuff in plain site... like a single sister last night forgot her song book and I shared mine with her... I'm wondering when I'm going to be counselled ;-) or when rumors wil start :-o
why do u think u might b counselled?
hypothetically speaking, of course.. oops! wrong journal!! (I was only sarcastically kidding about the counsel part, which is why I did a wink-eye emoticon)
i wasn't talking about being alone together. i meant in public-"oh my goodness, they each looked in the other's direction. they must be in love" It's like SHUT UP!!!!!! Is everyone's life so boring that they have to make up stuff about 2 people just b/c they say hi to each other? really. i'm agreeing w/ you dave.
Thanks... I think when the friends do that it puts ideas into the heads of all involved and can lead them to get into a relationship, only because others think they should. Stupidity.
Good point
i can see how that can happen though i've never experienced it. it just annoys the crap out of me and i want to go have a long "mind your stinking busines or go to gehenna for slander" talk w/ people who start that crap.
HAHAHHA, same here.
those people aren't friends
i think it is totally possible....but more often than not...one will start liking the other...and that sucks cuz it's really hard to go back to the friendship level if A-you wind up going out and break up or B-only one shares those feelings....chances are it's gonna be awkward....at least for a while. of course...i dont really think any of this is true...cuz i have lots of guy friends that i'd never see in any other way then just a friend.
OH def.. but like what was brought out already, sometimes.... it can change... which, like jahanna said, sucks... its impossible to go back to what it was before..
I agree with most of all of this. I've got mostly girl friends and like 5 guy friends, which i'm trying to expand. The WHOLE thing hinges on the maturity of both people. If two people meet and like the qualities of each other that is great. If you like the qualities of the person AND think they are attractive, it's still not a problem, because you can still act mature and not really let on (I.E. DROOL) then you can be friends with them and maybe you won't like them. IT helps if you know what you want, so that you won't play with their emotions and toy with the thought of a relationship.
A lot of it depends on your experience. I know a person who i'd hang out with and when we would go out with a group he would eventually like a girl in the group and so of course when it didn't work out we'd be outcast and not hang out with them or be friends with any of them. I'm not the most mature person in the world but to me friends are important so it's worth it to ignore feelings for all of these reasons. And because of certain things in my life i tend to be more like everybody's big brother, which also works to my disadvantage. But I think it's better not to be a flirt. I'd rather have most women be comfortable with me than think of me in a romantic way. That is a lesson i learned a looooong time ago.
An example of keeping it proper is a guy and a girl going to a party, which has happened to us all. If you take someone to a party and you both know people don't be paired off when you get there. Don't hang on them the whole night. Don't make it look like you are a couple. Guys are worse at this than girls. I've been to parties where girls have told me they don't know why no guys will talk to them and they are so happy i asked them to dance and i tell them it's because the guy they came with is giving the rest of us the signal to stay away, meanwhile the girl isn't even interested. Anyway, i've also had a bad experience with this, because me and a sister who i was best friends liked each other, but we never knew. It turns out however that someone who didn't approve interfered and told both of us that the other wasn't interested and it wasn't until AFTER she just got engaged that i found this out. But that was a rare case.
that's so sad. dumb people. stay out of business that isn't yours.
my thoughts... anybody ever watch the movie "when harry met sally"? i sort of agree with the views expressed in that movie
don't remember all of it but...ok
which views might those be?
he doesnt know, he never saw the movie...