People who move in with their parents after marriage, to save money for a house:
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At first I would have to say NO! Never! and that people who move in with their parents are the biggest losers on the face of the earth, but then I found out that there are a lot of cool people that have followed this trend, still it's not something I would want to but who can blame them, have you seen house prices in Jersey lately? While living at home with your parents may not be the coolest thing, it's still better than moving to Pennsylvania.
where did you come from? and why do you have so much to say?
since you brought it up, as long as you have a DEFINITE plan in the near future of getting your own place...it's ok. saving up for a down payment on a house...is a good idea. because houses are expensive. especially in america. not so much, in cuba.
right on gti_jesse!
whats wrong with pennsylvania?
i dont' know. there are some nice places in pa. i know a couple doing this and their aparentment is like a one story house and hundreds less than my grandmas apartment in newark.
yeah, me too...you can get a beautiful house there for a quarter of the price it would cost out here. Most people have like 50 acres there, for the price that half an acre would cost here.
yeah and that is a temporary move. you can take the cheap alternative (just like being at your parents house) excpet that you are actually on your own. pa may seem like a distant country but its really not that bad. and it ain 't that far away.
Ooooh PA is really nice! i had a HUGE apartment there when I lived there, for $400 a month. I couldn't find a job tho, and I had to move back to NJ. Sometimes I hate NJ, sometimes I love it. Haha. I might love it in the next few days again.
does this mean juicy's gonna be in my congregation?
bahahahaha.. YA NEVER KNOW! anyways i just wanted to see what the general consensus is. I personally would NOT want it to come to that. But saving money is good. Starting out on your own, or starting out a married life in New Jersey is just really hard unless you have tons of money saved up or if you don't have to pay for your own wedding.
i don't know, i think that its more respectable to make your own way. I mean, if you legitamately cant afford it, thats okay...but when people go out and spend all their money on "toys" and don't save a dime...i'm not so into that...but i'm just sayin'
And he will be one with his wife, and a "man shall leave his father and mother and stick to his wife". If you can't afford to live on your own when you're getting married, maybe you shouldn't be getting married. My boyfriend and I have had to wait. It's all in the bible, kids.
heh and i guess waiting makes you bitter
That's funny in that way that's totally...not.
It makes me smarter. You can have amazing clarity when you control your hormones.
believe me a lot of people wish you two would just get married already.
I have no idea who you are, but I'll tell you to shut up.
I have to agree with di on this... i mean its one thing if something happens unplanned and then you HAVE to move back in... but to plan on that, i dunno, it just doesnt seem like you were prepared to be married in the first place.
Yeah I agree with that definitely.
still, you can't predict everything. it's obviously not an ideal situation, but i don't see how anybody could pass judgement on somebody else's circumstances.
yeah... and technically if you're not "READY" to get married, you're not suposed to be dating. Dating for a ridiculous amount of time isn't good either.
very true point made
hmmm, i dunno man, i mean i said circumstances could be valid excuse, but to PLAN on it before you get married, I would think you should be a bit more settled than that.
ok, i was talking about like say u lose your job or your house or something that you can't predict happens. i wouldn't get married if i wasn't sure i would be able to support myself and my wife
exactly, you cant expect the unexpected, but thats part of the reason you need to be prepared to be married, if you arent and you find yourself in a situation where you are going to move in with your parents, you may need to rethink somethings through... just my opinion.
I refuse to ever live with my parents after i'm married, unless of course a nuclear bomb comes and destroys my house and we need a place to stay until it gets fixed... then thats acceptable. Otherwise I couldn't.
these people are what i call not-ready-for-marriage-which-includes-being-able-to-support-yourself losers. (was that too harsh?)
