fireOG 2004

Tes Stanley (formerly Bieniasz) from Wanamassa, NJ was the definition of a Supreme Lurker: 327 logins, 6 comments, and 472 photo views — she was watching everything and saying almost nothing. When she did speak up, it was with warmth and specificity. She shared three elaborate proposal stories from her own family: her husband proposed at the beach gazebo where they had their first candlelit dinner, one brother had her and their cousins set up a hidden picnic on Lovers Lane in Princeton complete with name cards, and the other brother hid a ring in a conch shell on a beach. She knew people across the NJ circuit — her brothers Myles and Lee Bieniasz and their wives went to the Wall congregation — and when a tragedy struck that community, she was there with the details and the grief, describing the father crying in the meeting Sunday. She connected easily with suchgr8heights, forrestina, and especially flomojopoanode, whom she peppered with questions about free iPod offers, computer problems, and Arrested Development ("buster reminds me SO much of lee"). She loved Stevie Wonder's "funky groovy old man" energy, attended the Special K send off, and checked in on old friends like lonestar and violetboregaurd to ask about bathing suit brands and catch up on life.

eZabel Personality Type: ISFJ — "The Quiet Connector." She logged in hundreds of times, read practically everything, and when she finally commented, it was to share family stories that made people feel something real. The lurker who was never really lurking — just listening, remembering, and caring from the background.