wow, i agree with perrin maybe...but i think 70 or 80 is way too high...because i think i've made that mistake before...and it was a mistake
Why do you think it's a mistake? To me, letting your heart decide anything seems to be a really bad idea, and it seems like it's a good idea to try to suppress it as much as possible.
because...it didn't work out...i was using so much reason to try to figure things out, and i forgot to put my heart into it also...oh, he's a good guy, oh he is spiritual, oh my parents like him, oh he has a nice personality....oops, i forgot to remember that i have to have feelings for him too
I'd really love for someone to explain what that phrase "have feelings for" means. No, I'm not joking.
If you're just using reasoning it can't work, you won't be happy! I think what Tinser said really covers it, you go "wow he's all these great things" turn around and realize you don't love him. You may care for him, but that's not enough you need to love. And also, if you let reason control you to much while you are in love you may mess up big time. Like, you love someone but reason tells you that you just don't make sense, you're not enough alike (the kind of stuff a friend would tell you) and you go on that..but you love them. Even if it doesn't always make sense love can make it work.
eXactly...love is the motivating force
uhuh. It's your head that produces doubts and if you are gonna be all rational then you won't survive.
Are we working under the same definitions of reason and heart? Cause I think both the head and the heart produce doubts. The difference is that when your head produces doubts you can reason through them deciding if they're really important and if you really have to deal with them, whereas when your heart produces doubts they're absolutely paralyzing preventing you from having any idea what to do until you get your head involved to sort out the mess.
I don't understand. What do you think it mean to love someone if not to recognize all the great things about them? To me, love is a very reasoned thing, and something which the heart has little to do with.
see, i think NOT letting your heart give you information is insane. go with your GUT instinct! what is your heart telling you? that doesn't necessarily mean you have to listen to what your heart says. sure, "the heart is treacherous". but it also "the seat of motivation". having passion about something or even someone, if it's regulated, can be a indicator of what path you may want to follow.
eXactly...you took the thoughts right out of my brain and put them into words. If you are only acting on reason, then what's the difference between that, and just a friend? I mean...nevermind....what dan said...he said eXactly what i meant. But...you still need some reason of course, but definitely more heart.
hmm maybe this is a sign, tinser
a sign like the thing matt said?
mike said the same thing, is that a sign too?
sounds like it. we'll run a test later.
haha, a test? intriguing
yes. let's move this to the EZ messages.
Daniel Hill!!!! You can't moderate a moderator! I'll smoke you for that.
i'll do it too. dan's gonna suddenly acquire a very vocal taste in gay culture.
hahaha....poor dan...never saw it coming
dan, this is what you get what you mess with a girl who has a boyfriend
haha, yeah...i'm staying out of this...i can't afford to lose my moderating privleges...it's the first step in my 9 step plan to rule the universe
Maybe it's different for you, but I find that what my heart tells me I want changes so radically from day to day and hour to hour, that it's simply an unreliable source of information on the subject.
i agree w/ going w/ instinct. there is a difference between heart/emotions and heart/instinct. your instincts are almost always right, but unfortunately often ignored.