i'm know what you mean. When it happens--you feel bad. sure. not that i'm perfect by any stretch, but i just don't have much sympathy for those who willfully go against Jehovah, fully aware of the consequences. certainly you hope they will learn and make a full recovery and return. i don't have the "according to hoyle" accepted procedure book in front of me, but i think praying for someone who's disfellowshipped is improper. almost 100% sure.