Actually, this is the same sister who, right before my grandma had a triple-bypass last year, asked me how my grandma was, and I said not good, and she just came right out and said something like "...

ahhhh so she has a pattern of this destructive behavior!! see so it's definitely not you. She lacks tact, or maybe she lacks tacks? i'm not sure. Either way, to be upset over someone who is "jus...