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brothermanOG 2004

It's not always the guy. I happen to be a gooey gushy guy that is straight forward with women. I always told my wife how I felt for her and tried to show it as well by doing extra things for her. Now I'm separated from her and looking at a possible divorce, because she has her head in the clouds. I shouldn't say possible. It is going to happen. She is seeing another guy and it is only a matter of time before she does the nasty with him. Needless to say, I have cut myself off from talking to her. She has ruined my life. Apparently she never grew up and she's 25!!
So ladies and gentleman, be wise in your decisions when courting a person. The best people are the straight forward ones, not ones that hide their feelings. Because if a person hides their feelings, you are in for some trouble down the road like I am in now. It will be especially worse if kids are involved. Now my kids will probably experience psychological damage because their mother is a fool and broke up her family.
So stay away from people that don't express their true feelings.

socalgal socalgalOG 2003

this is true.

Our PO gave a talk on commitment and marriage and he brought out 1 thing that doesn't come natural for a man or a woman, for a man, love doesn't come natural and for a woman respect doesn't come natural. He proceeded to direct the talk to the single brothers and said "no matter how much in love you are, if you feel that she can't respect you and your headship, the marriage will never work..." then he proceeded with the sisters "no matter how much in love you are with him, if you can't follow his lead and respect him, the marriage will never work" and i find this to be so in my experiences anyway....

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brothermanOG 2004

Yeah. My wife never did respect my headship. But it also didn't help that she isn't a witness. She termed me as a control freak. I at least know what to look for in any relationship I have in the future. Sorry girls, but being HOT isn't enough.

socalgal socalgalOG 2003

it really isn't i agree.

I'm truly sorry you're going through this!

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brothermanOG 2004

Well, it's my own fault really. I chose a woman in the world and now I'm paying the price. I feel bad all the time for the kids. They are only 4 and 2 and now they will probably have no memory of their parents being together. It is truly sad. I have a vacation video from last April sitting on my dresser, that if I watched right now would probably leave me in tears. She doesn't think it'll have an effect on them. She is sadly mistaken. As soon as they're old enough and see other kids with both of their parents together it will hit them. For some kids it is tragic. That is my only fear. If I had no children, believe me I'd be like "See you lady, don't let the door hit you on the way out". She is the only one that doesn't think what she is doing is wrong. And then to disrespect me and not wait the required 18 months for a divorce before seeing someone else boils my blood. It just makes her look like a slut. People in the world are really messed up.

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