replying to 15:
im not hatin, im just saying youve got a mom and a sis, id expect you not to get so freaked out since you obviously have experience. listening is the absolutely best thing you can do. hugs and tissue providing would prolly be a good addition.
"what should you do/say if a guy starts flipping out and yelling about how no one understands him?" hmm...i can identify with being misunderstood. i would quietly encourage him to talk and prolly work on his adrenal gland via massage until he calms a bit.
that sounds naughty haha
sorry...i should add that the adrenal gland can be accessed through reflexology of the hand.
something to do with kidneys? or am i off...i think i must be bc i dont understand what this would have to do with the problem
the adrenal glands are near the kidneys yes. they secrete steroidal hormones that are responsible for the fight or flight response. once someone gets all worked up, calming that system down would help them.
just to jog your memory...think back to your 6th grade class trip when they packed that poor boys ritalin under the bus.
yeah, but having a sister and a mom is different from having a friend. it's so much different. i don't think that comment was fair.
im sorry you feel picked on. you have a point about the relationship being different. i can see from your perspective its not cool for someone to open up to you in an overwhelming way. that explains why some guys get freaked out. i guess you are the only one who really answered tinsers question, since the other guys said, "i dont get freaked out..." kudos! thanks for being honest!
saying "i'm sorry you feel..." is not really an apology ... imagine if a girl was crying b/c of something i said, and i told her "i'm sorry you feel that way" ...you'd tell her to run ..... but since this is all the apology i am going to get, i'll take it.
it totally is an apology! i am sorry you feel picked on! it wasnt my intention. i wouldnt advise a girl to run from you if you were giving her an affirmation when she was upset. i would say, did you expect him to apologize for your perception? plus i gave you props for answering the question and being honest.