okay, here's a thought.
What if the girl cries early on in the relationship over something the guy deems as...not a big deal. (Does anyone recall that seinfeld with the girlfriend who cries over dropping an icecream cone and tons of other ridiculous things? But when her grandmother dies, she's as hard as a rock, like it's no big deal.) The guy might think that his girl is going to end up being extremely needy, always getting upset over what he deems as "little things". Also, then you need to watch your every word so as not to offend, and that could wear you down.
that was what i was trying to say in #5, but you elocuted it much better! go todd!
oh, thanks... I think my elecution needs work.
examples always help (or a graph). ;)
lol, i remember that. funny
what about the friends with the same idea?
pete the weeper?? "was it good for you-hooooo-hoooooo!?!"
if a girl cries over dropped ice cream... especially at our age..
you really need to give her something to cry about it.. like grab her cat and milk it.. then give the milk to homeless people..
then tell the homeless people to turn that milk into ice cream
and then give that ice cream in front of her to your other girlfriend
Might have to consider the emotional make-up of this individual as well as their background. They might cry not because they're needy but, because their just that way.
This person might just need to get it out of their system (once they do everythings fine). Life experience,memories anything could lend itself here...people don't always want to share because THAT make them feel needy, so they just let it out and move on.
okay... I think I understand that, and I definitely could see some of that.
I consider emotional make up and background (baggage?) as factors lead to the neediness. You said "They might cry not because they're needy but, because their just that way.". That is exactly what the guy might be afraid of.
Now it's different if this sort of thing happens once. Even once in a while--it's bound to happen at some point, right--after a fight or something? If I had a girlfriend right now, and she needed me, I'd be there in a heart beat. But if this was like...all the time, I would be out of there.
I guess the first time it happens, it might make a guy stop and think..."okay, is this going to happen all the time?" It would be scary.
It'd be a totally different situation if the girl is just a friend. I imagine that most guys can help a friend in need.
if the chick cries over ANYTHING, leave her, she's needy and a whiney baby and NOTHING is going to ever satisfy her.
wait, do you mean she cries at everything....or if she even cries once?
cause, i dont think there is anything wrong with crying over something huge...like a breakup or something like that