i guess.. but this doesn't work for me because i just can't "block" people out of my life, i'm just not that kind of person
you can if its better for you.
bad association spoils usefull habits, or in this case drama causeing people spoil useful habits.
drama is only a part of your life if you let it be apart of your life.
i dunno about this... i think if youra people person... youll have drama... not because of you, but because its just cause people have issues and if you're around them, you'll get involved too.
I totally agree! Sometimes you can't help who is involved in your life..like family, people you've grown up with or live in your area. They can cause drama for you and it's not like you can just pick up and leave or kick them out of your life. This is where love and long-suffering comes in. Putting up, waiting for a time when things will be better (that may not be 'til the new system, but hey!)
All I am saying is you can avoid it. Trust me. And it has nothing to do with being a people person, it has nothing to do with being insensitive or unfriendly.
When your mind is occupied on more important things so called "drama" like this, mentioned above,cause thats just petty drama,im not talking about important things like family situations,or real problems)is not a part of your life. It's just not. And i dont think I live in a make beleive world where there is no drama, but because I made some changes I have NO drama.
I never had drama in my life come to think of it. just for a short second.and that was nothing.
I credit not having drama in my life because of the people I hung out with. but I guess no one understand that, your association has everything to do with everything.
i agree, mostly
me too.. but I guess you haven't experienced leech-like needy people. You are fortunate. And I guess you don't have that social worker mentality that doesn't allow you to flee, but summons you to try and help. Wish I had less of that.
i think ezabel has this persona of me that I am stand offish and not a friendly , good friend person, dont care about my friends problems, yada yada, That's wrong, Im just not an ezabel person. I am a very strong person, and I am always there for my friends, and id be the first person to give the shirt off my back literally to help them,if I KNOW they aren't going to abuse it, or miss use it, I help them see its not so bad the glass is half full, and i think for me thats what people miss understand, i think the positive not the negative, and i think it comes off like I am an insensitve person.
No way, I don't think that at all. I don't even know ya hun! maybe it's just that drama follows some people more than others. Such is life I guess. I try to steer clear. But lately with one of my circles of friends there's been some drama..and you definitely have something there about association. I've had to step back.
ya, this is true it does follow others more than it does some.
I think this may possibly be because you tend to contradict yourself, i mean when you say "i love my friends and I would help them if they needed me" and "block people that cause drama out of your life" in the same breath, it may be confusing for some (who don't know you in 'real life')
I guess,
not all my friends cause drama though, or I just block out the part where they do. so its not really contradicting.I think helping them and getting involved with petty drama is 2 different things.
I think that the reason I needed to vent in this journal is because this hasn't happened in a while and I thought it was over with and I wasn't gonna run into this kind of thing anymore, and it's very annoying. Like you said, things happen, people don't always get along, yadda yadda, it's just annoying when it does happen. Believe me I hate drama and I don't feel like it follows me, it's not constant, if it was constant I would be used to it and wouldn't be annoyed by it anymore, haha.. it's just annoying when it does happen. Life happens, problems happen, people happeen... it's kind of unavoidable (even with the most laid-back people). I just needed to vent because it's annoying. And a lot of people go thru the same stuff. So it helps to hear that, it made me feel better, and I've moved on haha...
yeah
plus like, you know how it is, some people just do not want to hang out with their ex's, haha.. or their current other half's ex's .. or WHATEVER. it's annoying... doesn't mean you "get involved" in their petty drama, but you're still affected by it because when suddenly and unexpectedly the two people that don't wanna see each other wind up in the same room, everyone's kinda on edge. There's just tension in the air for some reason. It's annoying. It happens though. And sometimes it leads to like, separations of circles of friends because so and so starts dating so and so's ex girlfriend and suddenly no one wants to hang out in the same group anymore. You don't have to get "involved" in that, but you're still affected by it... that's all i'm sayin..
ha ha, thats just immaturity = petty drama = ignore it, because you can't help the way a person thinks so go about your regular business, can't please everyone, as i have learned
yeah but you can't force people to be friends or to hang out, so you have to like, be careful, not to invite the same people over as you normally do, and this is annoying. You can think it's immature and petty but you still have to respect people's wishes and stuff.
of course not, but there way of thinking is immature they cant be in the same room because some one else is, cmon, i dont care if your 45 and you think like that, its immature. we are all brothers and sisters we should not feel like that towards each other especially.
If we dont have our christian brother hood what do we have?
what happens if you have to be the ones to help each other out in dire times, will you be able to over come those feelings then , if you cant over come them now?
not that i care about the particular situation you are talking about cause thats anciant already,and has been done since it has been started. but in a general basis to think like that is immature.
and i wholeheartedly agree with this. I always think "what if i have to live next-door to this person in the new system" haha.. ya know? I don't feel any negative feelings towards anyone. Perhaps that's my problem I'm too nice haha... I don't agree with that way of thinking but if a friend doesn't want to hang out with their girlfriend's ex i'm not gonna force them to haha .. it just becomes a stressful situation i guess... and it becomes stressful because i don't agree with the viewpoint and i wish everyone could just get along.
of course.
how did i know i was gonna come back in here and see a bunch of controversey?