Annoying
by Yeah so I think i'm just gonna stop hanging out with everyone and me and Chris will just entertain each other from now on..
I hate this.
Why is it that I contstantly run into the "we can't hang out with THESE FRIENDS if THOSE FRIENDS are gonna be there" or "He can't hang out if SHE's gonna be there" or "i don't want to go because HE'S gonna be there" or "My mommy says i have aides" or various variations of this problem
SO ANNOYING
seriously so many friendships get wrecked because either somoene has baggage with someone else and they are too petty to hang out with that person, or someone is "not allowed" to hang out with someone ... or someone is "not dating" and they're not supposed to be "not dating" and so they're no longer allowed to hang out. WHAT THE HECK
seriously i'm about ready to just GIVE UP on people
I'm tired of having to choose between friends
Seriusly it's like being the child of divorce and the parents hate each other and you love them both and it's kinda hard to choose who you're gonna see this particular day
I give up
I'm in my stinken mid-20's. I'm married. I would THINK that by now this stuff was not going to be a problem. And yet, people still suck.
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:( I'm going through the SAME thing! I'm the type of person that I call up everyone to hang out but lately for whatever DRAMA that's going down between certain people, NOone is excited to hang out and it's nearly impossible to coordinate without stepping on someone's toes..I say put your freaking shoes on and stop being sore. I've given up too.
yeaaaaaah... it's kinda stupid when you can't just be like 'yeah come over' becuase you have to consider "wait, did i already tell this other person to hang out too.. wait.. is this going to be ok.. "
Since when is recreation = stress
Even when I know two people don't get along I invite them over and tell them to get over it and be nice. Its really not fair to everyone else when people act that way.
yeah and i mean... i can't be a hypocrite, i have been guilty of not wanting to hang out with someone because of stupid reasons... when i was a lot younger.. heh... and feelings were hurt.. but um.. things needed time to 'heal' or whatever... but we're friends now so it's all good! haha... it's just SO not fun when it happens ALL THE TIME now... geez
or how about inviting a friend AND his brother to hang out and finding out his brother never got the invite! What is that? I'm done.
HOW ABOUT not being able to hang out with two people who are like your best friends because all of a sudden they LIKE EACH OTHER and their parents don't want them hanging out anymore?!?!?! WAAAAAAAAAH!!!
thats messed up. i would hope to be passed that happening at this stage of the game.
I KNOW. Should I be ashamed to admit that some of my friends still have parents whose roof they live under and whose 'rules' they have to obey? I don't think it's shameful. It stinks though!!
nope. i still obey my parents rules. i think i would take their advice seriously if i was interested in someone.
WHAAAAAAAAH! (I'm crying with you) That's MESSED up.
wait, are they like YOUR age?..cause if so the parents need to start backing off..i can't stand when parents try to pull that stuff, soooooo annoying
that happened to me! a few years ago, i went up to these two girls that were new in my hall and was chatting with them. after checking with my folks to see it was ok i went back to invite them for supper. then only one girl shows up and she claimed she didnt know i meant to invite both of them. weird!
Yo! This is happening to us too. I hate it. I was thinking a similar thing (just hang out with Ben and watch friday night standup and tell other people to go away) because people are just being so freakin immature lately.
is everyone going through this? i'm having a issues lately with a friend who loves getting invited to things that i'm going to, but hates if i invite anyone to things organized by her or by us. i'm guilty too tho. like inviting someone to do something and asking them not to invite a certain person just bc that person has been annoying me. i am like finding way too many things to work on in myself lately and i don't know where to start...
i <3 lynz!
There is WAY too much estrogen up in here....
well don't you know, all girls get their time of the month at the SAME time of the month?!?!? ALL MONTH!!! haha.. oh my..
hahah are you trying to scare him out of the journal?
with some girls i wonder
haha you know what the funny thing is... one of these 'cases' is a guy who refuses to hang out with someone because of past baggage. Sooooooooo maybe he's really a girl..
I've also noticed this among some of my MALE friends actually MOSTLY. It's the truth.
I know EXACTLY what you mean. I have been going through this for years. It's ridiculous. Like, high school is over, you know? I graduated 6 years ago, and why am I still dealing with this?
On the upside, it has given me the opportunity to rethink which relationships are "healthy" for me to have, both spiritually and mentally. It's also given me a great opportunity to branch out, and I've gained a few unexpected friends that way.
Like I said, I totally know what you mean, and the level of annoyance you're experiencing. But maybe something good will come out of the frustration....maybe you'll meet some new people, or have other unexpected things come up that are positive. Keep smiling. :)
yo this is sooooo NOT happening to me whatsoever.
maybe because i'm not invited anywhere.
and i just party with Rastachinka and mr. Sergov Stolinaya
You're invited to hang out with me, Ty. :) And bring Rastachinka.
sometimes you have to do the inviting..
yeah this is not my situation either.
Im exactly how life used to be, and have been for a while, just a short second did stupid things go on like this, and only becuase I let it go on like that. but its all good and its beyond great.
everyone is different not everyone jives, so what, and kids have to listen to their parents so what, its life. Just learn to block out the drama and the people causeing drama and its all good.
worked for me my whole life. blockety block block block that drama mama.
i guess.. but this doesn't work for me because i just can't "block" people out of my life, i'm just not that kind of person
you can if its better for you.
bad association spoils usefull habits, or in this case drama causeing people spoil useful habits.
drama is only a part of your life if you let it be apart of your life.
i dunno about this... i think if youra people person... youll have drama... not because of you, but because its just cause people have issues and if you're around them, you'll get involved too.
I totally agree! Sometimes you can't help who is involved in your life..like family, people you've grown up with or live in your area. They can cause drama for you and it's not like you can just pick up and leave or kick them out of your life. This is where love and long-suffering comes in. Putting up, waiting for a time when things will be better (that may not be 'til the new system, but hey!)
All I am saying is you can avoid it. Trust me. And it has nothing to do with being a people person, it has nothing to do with being insensitive or unfriendly.
When your mind is occupied on more important things so called "drama" like this, mentioned above,cause thats just petty drama,im not talking about important things like family situations,or real problems)is not a part of your life. It's just not. And i dont think I live in a make beleive world where there is no drama, but because I made some changes I have NO drama.
I never had drama in my life come to think of it. just for a short second.and that was nothing.
I credit not having drama in my life because of the people I hung out with. but I guess no one understand that, your association has everything to do with everything.
i agree, mostly
me too.. but I guess you haven't experienced leech-like needy people. You are fortunate. And I guess you don't have that social worker mentality that doesn't allow you to flee, but summons you to try and help. Wish I had less of that.
i think ezabel has this persona of me that I am stand offish and not a friendly , good friend person, dont care about my friends problems, yada yada, That's wrong, Im just not an ezabel person. I am a very strong person, and I am always there for my friends, and id be the first person to give the shirt off my back literally to help them,if I KNOW they aren't going to abuse it, or miss use it, I help them see its not so bad the glass is half full, and i think for me thats what people miss understand, i think the positive not the negative, and i think it comes off like I am an insensitve person.
No way, I don't think that at all. I don't even know ya hun! maybe it's just that drama follows some people more than others. Such is life I guess. I try to steer clear. But lately with one of my circles of friends there's been some drama..and you definitely have something there about association. I've had to step back.
ya, this is true it does follow others more than it does some.
I think this may possibly be because you tend to contradict yourself, i mean when you say "i love my friends and I would help them if they needed me" and "block people that cause drama out of your life" in the same breath, it may be confusing for some (who don't know you in 'real life')
I guess,
not all my friends cause drama though, or I just block out the part where they do. so its not really contradicting.I think helping them and getting involved with petty drama is 2 different things.
I think that the reason I needed to vent in this journal is because this hasn't happened in a while and I thought it was over with and I wasn't gonna run into this kind of thing anymore, and it's very annoying. Like you said, things happen, people don't always get along, yadda yadda, it's just annoying when it does happen. Believe me I hate drama and I don't feel like it follows me, it's not constant, if it was constant I would be used to it and wouldn't be annoyed by it anymore, haha.. it's just annoying when it does happen. Life happens, problems happen, people happeen... it's kind of unavoidable (even with the most laid-back people). I just needed to vent because it's annoying. And a lot of people go thru the same stuff. So it helps to hear that, it made me feel better, and I've moved on haha...
yeah
plus like, you know how it is, some people just do not want to hang out with their ex's, haha.. or their current other half's ex's .. or WHATEVER. it's annoying... doesn't mean you "get involved" in their petty drama, but you're still affected by it because when suddenly and unexpectedly the two people that don't wanna see each other wind up in the same room, everyone's kinda on edge. There's just tension in the air for some reason. It's annoying. It happens though. And sometimes it leads to like, separations of circles of friends because so and so starts dating so and so's ex girlfriend and suddenly no one wants to hang out in the same group anymore. You don't have to get "involved" in that, but you're still affected by it... that's all i'm sayin..
ha ha, thats just immaturity = petty drama = ignore it, because you can't help the way a person thinks so go about your regular business, can't please everyone, as i have learned
yeah but you can't force people to be friends or to hang out, so you have to like, be careful, not to invite the same people over as you normally do, and this is annoying. You can think it's immature and petty but you still have to respect people's wishes and stuff.
of course not, but there way of thinking is immature they cant be in the same room because some one else is, cmon, i dont care if your 45 and you think like that, its immature. we are all brothers and sisters we should not feel like that towards each other especially.
If we dont have our christian brother hood what do we have?
what happens if you have to be the ones to help each other out in dire times, will you be able to over come those feelings then , if you cant over come them now?
not that i care about the particular situation you are talking about cause thats anciant already,and has been done since it has been started. but in a general basis to think like that is immature.
and i wholeheartedly agree with this. I always think "what if i have to live next-door to this person in the new system" haha.. ya know? I don't feel any negative feelings towards anyone. Perhaps that's my problem I'm too nice haha... I don't agree with that way of thinking but if a friend doesn't want to hang out with their girlfriend's ex i'm not gonna force them to haha .. it just becomes a stressful situation i guess... and it becomes stressful because i don't agree with the viewpoint and i wish everyone could just get along.
of course.
how did i know i was gonna come back in here and see a bunch of controversey?
seriously, i've done this, because (to the person, you know who you are), sometimes stuff is too fresh and you're just too annoyed by this.
but OTHER TIMES coughcoughmorcoughialecough it's based on nothing but some STUPID comment someone said 5 years ago that it's time to let go already. that's no reason to hate the person.
although having said that - there is ONE kid from upstate that i DESPISE. because he's a jerk. i want to spend 5 minutes alone with this kid and beat the snot out of him. everyone likes him but me. but i don't do anything. because we are all adults now.
you are in your mid-20's, you're now responsible
i don't know what this means
hmmm, yeah either do i
Kam -- i gotta tell you because of a wedding that i was in a while ago, well actually I got kicked out of the wedding... long story short... it fragmented a huge group of my friends.
anyways yea - most annoying thing is that one side really won't ever bend and hang out with the other. seriously what are we in kindergarten or something? Like "oh she put a booger on me and now I am not sharing my milk" - And there I am in the middle, and it is SO tiring. The world is much bigger than all this garbage - can't we all just get along... lol.
i'm so sorry hun!!! some people are just so much drama, I hate that. Hang in there!!
wow, seems like everybody feels the same way about these situations...i guess they happen to everybody
i wish i knew the answer...because i'd sure like to use it myself
i thought long island was the only place that had drama and cliques and people who didn't want to hang out with other people like this....thats the reason i GO to jerz! to escape the madness here
ha you come HERE to escape drama. this is the drama state, honey.
yeah, it definitely is. honestly, i don't think you can go anywhere to escape it. just get mature friends.
haha to me this is hilarious because by saying you hate drama you create drama with people on how they feel about drama who have various views of what drama is
totally...its amazing how things backfire
see its not so much how things backfire, i think its because the sun is the light. see, the sun has light, and light is the sun, but if you throw a beer at the sun it becomes fun.
if you throw a beer at the sun, thats wasteful. unless its milwakees best light and then you can afford it.
hahaha yes i can't wait for this to turn into an argument on how people feel about drama, what drama is, and maybe how it should be spelled Drahm-uh
and how it rhymes with mama so well.
sorry... this just reminded me of this song...
Teeter-totter caught up between trying to be a father and a pre-madonna
Baby mama drama's screamin on and
Too much for me to wanna
Stay in one spot
I have to say, and dan will definitly agree, that sometimes i am the creator of the drama. Here is the biggest instance, and I really cant go over it. I have been complaining about my ex-best friend and her unofficial boyfriend "unofficially dating" behind my back, knowing how i felt about the guy. I cant even explain how much this hurts, and it makes me want to start bawling. I dont want to say anything about spirituality or anything, cause thats between the person and Jehovah and I dont want to say anything that could be considered slander, so I dont really want to go there, so all I'm going to say about that is that sometimes we have to be careful about our associations. I think a lot of times people are only concerned about not associating with the World, but Witness are sometimes not always doing the right thing either (NOTE: I am not saying anything specific here). Thats all.
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