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originalsnob originalsnobOG 2004

The question...

Why does open communication fly out the window so easily in so many relationships? platonic/other

Here's the scenario

There are two single friends of the opposite gender in a TOTALLY platonic relationship.

Friend #1 has self esteem issues from mistreatment/failed relationships in the past.

Friend #2 easy-going, fun, sympathetic, nurturing, and self sufficient.

So friend number two tries to be a good friend to #1, concluding that #1 is such a great person and deserved so much more than the illtreatment experienced in the past.

Somewhere along the way Friend #1 gets a swelled head and thinks #2 has more interest than just friendship, and gets FUNKY & distant.

*wouldn't be suprised if NOBODY knows the answer to this.

suchgr8heights suchgr8heightsOG 2003

the question is: is #2 really just looking for friendship in #1 or has #2 just not realized he/she likes the other more than just a friend and #1 is picking up on that?

originalsnob originalsnobOG 2004

Not at all, #2 is the kind of person that will cry for their friends happniess (any of the friends they have).
For #2 if their friends are miserable, #2 cannot be happy knowing they're miserable. Just the kind of person #2 is very lending, no alterior motive.

hunkpapap hunkpapapOG 2003

maybe friend #1 took your comfort the wrong way...

suchgr8heights suchgr8heightsOG 2003

which way are you thinking?? My mind is going that way but I'm not coming up with anything.

ilikebirds ilikebirdsOG 2002

ok number 2 stop asking questions

originalsnob originalsnobOG 2004

Not appreciated Thai...I frown in your general direction :(

ilikebirds ilikebirdsOG 2002

aww why... lets hug and make up

originalsnob originalsnobOG 2004

Hugs are always welcome and today especially needed.

ilikebirds ilikebirdsOG 2002

OKAY. i'm in.

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