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originalsnob originalsnobOG 2004 ·

The question...

Why does open communication fly out the window so easily in so many relationships? platonic/other

Here's the scenario

There are two single friends of the opposite gender in a TOTALLY platonic relationship.

Friend #1 has self esteem issues from mistreatment/failed relationships in the past.

Friend #2 easy-going, fun, sympathetic, nurturing, and self sufficient.

So friend number two tries to be a good friend to #1, concluding that #1 is such a great person and deserved so much more than the illtreatment experienced in the past.

Somewhere along the way Friend #1 gets a swelled head and thinks #2 has more interest than just friendship, and gets FUNKY & distant.

*wouldn't be suprised if NOBODY knows the answer to this.

suchgr8heights suchgr8heightsOG 2003 ·

the question is: is #2 really just looking for friendship in #1 or has #2 just not realized he/she likes the other more than just a friend and #1 is picking up on that?

originalsnob originalsnobOG 2004 ·

Not at all, #2 is the kind of person that will cry for their friends happniess (any of the friends they have).
For #2 if their friends are miserable, #2 cannot be happy knowing they're miserable. Just the kind of person #2 is very lending, no alterior motive.

hunkpapap hunkpapapOG 2003 ·

maybe friend #1 took your comfort the wrong way...

suchgr8heights suchgr8heightsOG 2003 ·

which way are you thinking?? My mind is going that way but I'm not coming up with anything.

ilikebirds ilikebirdsOG 2002 ·

ok number 2 stop asking questions

originalsnob originalsnobOG 2004 ·

Not appreciated Thai...I frown in your general direction :(

ilikebirds ilikebirdsOG 2002 ·

aww why... lets hug and make up

originalsnob originalsnobOG 2004 ·

Hugs are always welcome and today especially needed.

ilikebirds ilikebirdsOG 2002 ·

OKAY. i'm in.

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