See, I think it's the point when you realize "there is no one better for me that i know or might know". You have to decide that at some point - based on previous experience (people you've dated, hung out with, friends of poeple you've dated, people your friends have dated, etc.) that this person is the best one, out of all of those.
Sure, you could always meet someone who you might THINK is better, initially. but you have to look at all the factors, including what i call "long-term-ness" - whether or not you can work well with that person for a long period of time, not just a this minute/week thing, but a 50 year thing. Or, if we live into the new system, 10,000,000,000+ years.
This is NOT settling I am in love with my girlfriend -- i love Lauren.
i toooootally disagree...that sounds like settling
i know what i want...the kind of relationship i want, and the type of guy i want. i dont think its a comparison thing, its something that comes from inside.
i agree completely-i thought the same exact thing when reading it. the 'one' is not really something you have to decide on. you know w/o doubts. it's not a comparison to anyone else, you don't weigh it out to see who is best. true it takes some people a little longer to know than others, but i think if you don't know positively within say a year or so, you might want to rethink who you are with.
see, i don't agree with that at all. you're making that decision based on right now, if you look at it from that angle. i knew without doubts that i loved my leather jacket when i bought it 5 years ago, but now it's time for a newer one.
but a leather jacket isnt a human being. it can't make sacrifices or change or adapt. STUPID ANALOGY!!
no, i don't think you understand. first of all, a leather jacket doesn't work on the relationship and love you back. second, it's not just a decision based on right now. when you are with the right person, you aren't wondering if there is someone better for you out there now, 1, 5, 10 yrs down the road. you know without a doubt that as long as that person is living (which may be eternity) you will not want to be with anyone else, even if perhaps there was someone else in the world with a compatible personality. trust me, i've been there.
true, if you're wondering if there's someone better out there, you're always going to be chasing after that and you're never going to find "the one"
there is always someone better looking, smarter prettier than we are, but you can't go on that alone. it's all about connecting with that person, respecting that person, personalities.
like i said you can love someones looks right off the bat, but being "in love" totally involves WAY more than that.
unfortunately, you have to make some sacrifices. if making a sacrifice = settling, then, i don't know if all the issues have been addressed.
let's take an example. there are many thing i want in life (such as being with lindsay lohan), but having them and serving Jehovah don't go together. Am i settling for serving Jehovah? Am I settling by chosing someone other than Lindsay Lohan? Nope. I'm making sacrifices for something I know will work out in the future.
It's all in how you look at it
hm, i still don't agree. because you don't know lindsay, thats all just based on looks. but that would be a different point to argue, say you did know her, and she was absolutely perfect for you. She still isn't perfect, because she isn't a witness. So, thats a major part of the perfect person to you (and to everybody on this site hopefully)
point is...i think there is a person..or a couple people who come close to be perfect for each of us. We look for things in people, and if they represent what we are looking for, then i dont think we'll think we are sacrificing what could be or picking the best at the moment...we're picking a person who we love for who they are and couldnt possibly imagine being without
well this comment is obviously different than it was yesterday. i agree with the part about knowing long term if you could work together, i think not enough people consider that. but it also isn't just a purely logical thing. though thinking and reason come into play, it's also a strong emotional thing. i don't know, i don't think i can explain it like i want to .
right -- janine i agree. this is one of the things in life that can't be looked at in a completely "logical" sense. When you are in love logic sorta flies out the window, cause you -just know-.
Now this also shows how women view things completely differently than men do.
"I think in decimals & dollars, I am the cause to all your problems..." Brand New.
i dont think guys and girls are that much different in that way
i agree. it depends on the person, not the gender.
well i think it is more that as women, we think a little more with our hearts, and men think with there heads... but yea i agree depending on the person it will differ
you mean you're dumber... lol!! jk jk jk
but yeah you're right to an extent, but women aren't all completely emotionally out of control and men aren't all robots.