You know what I can't understand? Why some people want you to know that this person is the one before you even date them! Sure, it's important to get to know them before you date but REALLY how can you know until you get started? grr!
I don't think i'm understanding....
I'm talking about pressure that people put on you.
i think i know what you mean. its like ppl are so afraid of being hurt, they want some guarantee you wont break their hearts before youre even sure if you know them.
ok that too! but outsiders putting pressure on you.
OH....you mean influencing the thinking of the pursuer on the pursuee??
for instance, me telling you that tom is not good for you, he's this, he's that etc. before you even have the opportunity to get to know him?
Yep! Exactly. Not that I'm the type to disregard sound advice...but sometimes people go crazy with it and make things more complicated then they are.
YES i totally understand. people butt in where they shouldn't. i could see if the person has the WORST rep and they're just warning you, but something innocent....they just wanna poke around where they shouldn't.
if that person listens to such and doesn't come to the conclusion themselves, then this person wouldn't be a good match since they can't make decisions on their own.
True that Socal! I'm very quick to "run things by" people...I guess for fear I don't know what I'm doing but that's not always true and I'm finding it's not such a good idea to let people butt in.
if its people you trust then its ok, but its' the ones who don't know you that're jsut beng nosey!
i think its important... it important to know what that person acts like in a regular relationship first. how he/she treats others, their friends, their family. how they react in normal day to day situations, all that stuff is important. if you just start dating, bam instantly, you both may (whether u know it or not) not totally be yourself
