All great posts, Pat, you're awesome.
It's kind of like this. I know I would be completely happy with either one of them, it's just my life would be different with each one. Their goals are different. So I ask myself, ok, what are my goals. I'm about to turn 29 and my life has changed so much in the past two years that every goal I once had was smashed. So I'm now at the point of not being sure what my goals are. I know I want to pioneer, that's all I do know. I can do that with either one.
And the 'what if' question is something that has haunted me. I shot myself in the foot big time because of that. I ended up choosing one over the other only to end up alone in the end. Very confusing situation, very strange situation, and now taking a harder look at myself I'm only lead to realize I'm even more confused now as to which is better for me. They're both hot, you can't go off looks. They both surf, so they're in shape. Major differences that I could easily point out is one would make an incredible mother, no doubt about that. The other wants Gilead. I know I'd be happy either way.
dude, if you're up for gilead, that's the way to go. You may not have children, but you'll have tons of spiritual children. I have friends who just went to Mozambique after Gilead, and it's just amazing. You would have such amazing spiritual training, and Jehovah's blessing all the way. A woman that is willing to give her life to Jehovah like that is an amazing one. A diamond in the rough. Go for her--that's my advice.
And if you don't, I will!
Speaking of children, that's another thing to ask yourself.....one woman wants Gilead, but does the other want children, even though she'd make an incredible mother? Do YOU want children? That's obviously gonna be a huge deciding factor, if you do want them for sure, and only one of them does.
hey jess - good to hear you are doing so very well. Go with the spiritual goals ALL the time, all the other parts of life will work out to the most amazing situations.
The hard part will be figuring out who you want to be with, but just pray super specific when it comes to this. Pray in terms of exacts and details. I mean you probably have already done this, but I am telling you it will decide exactly what you are trying to figure out.
Call me sometime... dan and I can come visit.
It seems that if you don't know what you want out of life then you're not ready to settle down any pick anyone. You have to know what you want in order to know if the person you will be with can fulfill your needs.