I can also email you a copy of my spreadsheets if you can't envision what I'm talking about.
i think she can envision it. we have a spreadsheet. the problem is the sheer number of people, and who gets cut (or "relocated"). we don't need any more spreadsheets, thankfully.
I think that was Don's and my biggest disagreement. Just think, "would it really make me happier to see this person at my wedding?" If you're indifferent about him/her, then you can make a cut.