it is a delicate juggling act. unfortunately some people, like fam you don't ever see, HAVE to be invited, but it doesn't have to be everyone ever related to you. some people are going to be insulted that they weren't invited-they will get over it. you will not make everyone happy. just make sure YOU guys are happy with the list. and we made a 2nd list of people we wanted to invite but fam took precedence over. we knew a number of people weren't going to come so we kept the second list to send invites when we got their No's back.