Having been in a similar situation a few years back ( I did the single parent thing too.....my hubby adopted my son after we got married), I can say that from a woman's perspective, it's nice when you put the kids first. Even though I had known my husband for almost 8 years before we started dating, and Tyler knew him as well, he still made a point to befriend Tyler first once he decided to pursue me, and along the way, he started to let me know he was interested.

It worked out well, because now, he and Tyler have such a good bond, and it really showed me off the bat that this was a man that had the same family interests that I did...because trust me, there are plenty of guys out there who "pretend" to be ok with the single mom thing, but really, they are easy to see through eventually.

I guess what I'm saying is that in my opinion, it's nice to put the kiddies first, to get them together and hang out, because not only does it afford you and the woman the opprtunity to chat about the main thing you have in common (the kids), and find out each others opinions on the important things like the kids, but it also prepares the kids for further hanging out, if you and the momma decide to start a relationship.

I hope that makes sense....I ramble a lot....hehehe.