It's a case by case thing for sure, but I personally would rather a guy ask me directly. I feel this way precisely because of the reasons you brought up. I'd think he was either shy, immature, or intimidated.
I'm curious to know what the girl thought about the reverse scenario. Would she invite guys out herself or support one of her girls doing that?
i do agree with you that it is case by case for the most part. there are factors-did you just meet? how long did you talk? do you have a common interest that you could invite her to (ex-show that both of you like the band)?
i wish i could edit my comments so i make sense. it seems like i am giving two contradicting views but i'm not. i'm just saying you might have to play it easy if you hardly said a word to her. it would be awkward if you met someone and talked to them for 5 min and then were like "hey want to come to my grandma's house for a family bbq" ya know?
Now that I understand. You definitely can't push a relationship (any relationship, really, even just a friendship) that quickly.
Well plus that's kinda soon to be interested in someone that way anyways. Should really know someone a little bit better than that before your all I'm interested in this person because then's it's pretty much just your attracted to them it being pretty much purely physical and that can be asking for trouble. In my opinion anyways.
I'm not sure. We didn't get into the other side of the issue.
One thing she did mention is that when she first met her husband she pretty much wrote him off, and that if he had tried to invite her to stuff she would never have gotten to know him. I don't quite see how that applied to what we were talking about, and I can sort of understand it, but it still seems a little immature.
my mom and dad were set up by a set of twins-one lived by mom, one by dad. they arranged to have my parents meet at the beach and both had a group of friends with them. when my mom saw the guys coming over the dunes, she thought i hope it's not the fat one. after a day with these guys, my mom was thinking PLEASE let it be the fat one! well, it was the fat one and they've been married over 30 years. i post this story to all my single girls out there. it's not wrong to be selective, but you might be pleasantly suprised when you go outside of your "type."