Yea, i just don't really don't get, how you can be so crazy in love with someone, and then HATE them and can't stand living with them anymore. I really wonder what it is that happens.
I think a big help in my marriage was the fact that Austin & I were friends for a good year before we had any real romantic interest in eachother. And because of that, you get to see how the person is, without them putting on any fronts to impress you. You know exactly what you're getting into!
I mean, not everyone would have this kind of situation, and we still dated for a year before we got married, but that is why i think it is important to date for a long enough time to really get to know the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with.
Liam and I did about the same thing as you and austin, we were just friends for around a year and then dated for about a year. I think it really helped. Your bond of friendship has to be just as strong as your bond of love.
Also, we both had lived on our own before we got married. I think this was very helpful in having practical expectations about marriage and life in general (paying bills, keeping your own schedule, maintaining spiritual balance - all with out the aid of parents)
I totally agree that living on your own is a huge help. I lived alone for about a year, but Donovan never did, and I maintain that that's the reason he doesn't think to do the dishes when the sink gets full - he never developed a sense of necessity to take care of himself. His mother stayed at home and did everything, literally so I partially blame her for not training him in the least bit. And you can tell that couples who both lived just with their parents before they were married still have that mentality of not doing any housework until they're told to. Lots o' fights develop that way.
my male bestfriend has been living on his own for a LONG time now....although he is super clean, he NEVER does his dishes. Some just never learn. LOL
NOOOOOOOO!!!! Don't tell me there's no hope! :( :( :( :(
do you not have a dishwasher?
Nope. My kitchen is so tiny I cry about it nightly. :)
hahaha sorry. if its not their thing, its not their thing. I always do his dishes.
a similar thing happens with my friend mike and everyone else. He never does the dishes or take out the trash. His wife waits until his company does it...
Mike was just as much of a slob when he lived with Jon. But if people who come keep doing the dishes, he'll never learn.
we'll let him live with my kids. Then he'll realize he has to clean. haha..
the wife should be doing the household duties....if the hubby helps out that def is a bonus and you've got a good man! even tho i'm independent, im def still old fashioned....to where the house is my domain.
Will you marry me? LOL!
hahaha awww....key words: west coast latin girls....we're raised different. lol
yeah, but in a way i have mike to thank for that.... got me an addition to the family :)
i do agree with the living on your own thing, although i did not, i think i should have...not as far as house cleaning things...cuz i'm sort of a neat freak, but as far as money situations go, because i don't think i have a totally realistic view of money, cuz i always had my mom & dad there to help out, and now Austin is my touchstone for that kind of stuff, i think i am getting better with it, but it would've been best if i dealt with it on my own.