So this attorney totally just yelled at me.
Rant On:
Since I was told by the office manager that I'm "not enough of a team player", I volunteered to be on the committee that is planning our firm picnic. No big deal, right? So I designed the invitations and had everyone in the office RSVP to me, and I was keeping a spreadsheet of the totals. I recieved the last RSVP yesterday, so I sent an email to everyone else on the committe with my total numbers:
"Total attending: 80
Total small children: 11
Total teen children: 7
Total adults: 69"
I broke it down like that for the caterer, because obviously we're not going to pay the same amount for little kids as for teens and adults. Now, I know that 11+7+69 does not equal 80, but I tried to explain to this one attorney that the "7" is included in the 69, because teens will eat as adults do. So 69+11=80. He says, "I'm looking at those numbers, and I see the total being 88, your 11 plus 7 plus 69." I said again that the 7 was included in the 69 and that he wasn't thinking about the addition correctly, and he freaked out. He said 'I don't need your lip, I'm just telling you what I see. I'm sure I do have the numbers wrong because obviously I'm not as smart as you.' and walked away.
Now, I'll admit that my figures are slighly confusing, and I listed them that way really only for my reference when speaking to the caterer, because I wanted to be able to give them the specific ages of everyone attending. But after I said that the 7 was counted in 69, I thought it would become clearer. I certainly didn't think I deserved to be yelled at like that.
So I spoke with another attorney here and told her the whole story and she agreed that I should just speak with the office manager and tell her I'd like to quit my "post" on the committee. It's just not worth it.
Rant Off.
Beat him! LOL!
you're going to quit the committee over that? as mike would say, MAN UP
it's just a minor misunderstanding. let it go.
The whole thing has been nothing but stress for me and it's absolutely not worth it. I don't need to be yelled at for anything.
Yeah unfortunately anywhere you go there will be some idiots.
i think you need to change jobs or something. you're always angry or annoyed where you're at. its not healthy.
It's funny, the attorneys I actually work for are fantastic, it's just the stupid secretaries and other attorneys. That's why I want to quit that committee; I'm not going to deal with stress that's not even a part of my actual job.
that was confusing.
but no need to quit
Do you think it's unreasonable to quit the commmittee?
i think it is. you shouldnt let one little thing make you quit.
Look at it from the others' perspective. You're on the committee, helping out. You send out a semi-confusing email, and one guy misunderstands and you have a spat with him. You quit the committee. (unless there's more to it than that)
It could seem a little unprofessional or not very pro-team to them.
In other words, be the bigger person
Very true. Maybe I'll still talk to the office manager and tell her the whole story, then ask her what she would think about me quitting. Because the other attorney I spoke with said the mean attorney kind of has a reputation for going off like that, so she said everyone would think I was justified in quitting. I just don't like being yelled at, ya know?
don't let her make the decision for you.
DO YOU.
if you're 100% completely hating the position on the commitee.. then by all means quit.
But if you're only hating it because of that 1 incident.. Don't quit.
My father once told me... " James, one day you're going to find out that pants aren't the best thing on earth... "
I'll never forget that . neither should you. really
hahaha - thanks. The whole thing has been an uphill battle. I'm just interested in the manager's opinion of the attorney. I also think that if I get her thoughts it'll make her feel like I'm asking her advice, which I know she likes.
Are you only wearing the minimum required flare? HaHa. Love that movie. Sounds like those people suck. I would try not to worry to much about it if i were you.
Yes, it is a classic.
I had just the oppisite reaction on Wednesday. I got asked by one of the higher ups to help plan a farewell to a really sweet intern that spent the summer with us.
I made it a suprise, I I emailed the invitation secretly and reserved the conference room...layed out the table gathered everyone together.
Everyone really appreciated it =)
I'm still getting thank you's...I feel for ya babe 'cause yours took a lot more effort and this dude should have been a lot more respectful/appreciative.
I luv how I keep misspelling the most simple words.
Well, I spoke with the office manager. She said the attorney had already spoken to her about my snideness (no surprise there) but she was patient in listening to my side. I admitted that I did lose my cool and spoke more harshly than normal. Her suggestion was that I send an email to the attorney apologizing. I'm sure eventually I will do that, but I hate being the bigger person when this guy is nearly 60 and can't act like an adult. The office manager confirmed that he is in fact a jerk to everyone, and she's not surprised he freaked out because he's done it to her a number of times. She said she would hate to see me quit the picnic planning because she thinks I've been doing a good job. Whatever. Turn the other cheek, I guess.