At what point is it "enough's enough" when dealing with a situation you don't feel is being handled correctly, and you have a great deal at stake in it?
I've about had it with Tyler's teacher, and some of the stupid stuff she says, and how insensitive she is, and how she doesn't seem to grasp the idea that 7 year olds need to be taught what's right, not expected to already know?
Oh, and as a side note, to add to the already pent up aggravation, she threw the word "abuse" out there today, when talking to Adam.
Yeah....she went there.
well maybe you shouldn't abuse your kid! GOSH
Yeah, maybe....problem is, she wasn't talking about the "hitting" abuse....
What kind of "abuse" was she talking about?
Long story short.....and NO making fun of Tyler for this, but when he was younger, in oder to be "comfortable" while using the bathroom at home (ONLY at home, and only while um....dropping the kids off at the pool), he would remove his clothing while he sat there, and played Gameboy while doing his bid-ness.
He stopped that about a year ago, but apparently reverted back to it yesterday....in the bathroom at school.
Normally, I would find this kind of funny, but his teacher seems to think that his clothing removal is indicative of abuse somehow, and is now all freaking out.
By the by, he is not the first member of my family that does this,....I can name 3 others. So maybe it's genetics, I don't know. But it really offends me that she suggested that, especially since she is always saying what a wonderful home he comes form. UUUUGGGGHHH!!!!!
Wow. That teacher is insane. That is not that unusual for little kids.
who knows, maybe the teacher was abused at one time. she's just being cautious, i'm sure. but i would be offended as well. :(
Yeah, I said something to her about the offensive remark.
Not unusual. I've heard of a number kids doing this.
Additionally, the stress of relocation could cause a child to temporarily exhibit minor to major regressive behavior. I don't know how they do things out in rattlesnake country, but this teacher should do a little research.
Yeah....I've heard from a number of different sources, that the two hardest times to move in a child's life are in the 2nd and 3rd grade years, and in junior high.....so Tyler's right there. He also did a bit of the "baby talk" last month, which we stopped right away....so regressing is normal for him, it seems. Especially given the amount of stress he's been under lately.
Additionally, the stress of relocation could cause a child to temporarily exhibit minor to major regressive behavior. I don't know how they do things out in rattlesnake country, but this teacher should do a little research.
i would meet with the principle and take it as far up the school district and make that womans life MISERABLE for making such accusations. dude seriously start with the principle of the school....
But think..would you rather her not make the insinuation? She could have gone right to some higher ups instead of mentioning it to the parents first. Would you rather her just ignore behavior that may seem off to her?
you def have a point BUT thats something you dont assume. thats serious. and if K doesnt head it off the teacher will assume that when other issues arise that he is being abused.
Hahah....we're not there yet, I hope.....but it was seriously all I could do to keep myself from going over there on my lunch break and giving Tyler the rest of the day off of school. I swear, at times I am SO ready to pull him out of there.
Unfortunately, I think that would cause even more stress for him....he seems to being doing well making friends now, so I want to give it more time....but there's a chance that he may be attending a different school next year, I"m thinking.
*UPDATE*
I emailed the teacher this afternoon. To sum up the email, I said we wanted to speak with her on the matter at hand, ASAP. I explained the bathroom nudie history, and also added that to insinuate something as serious as abuse, in our minds is not only ridiculous, but also very offensive. I also added that he's going through a lot of stress due to the move, and so we'd appreciate it if he could be cut a little slack. Not saying to allow inappropriate behavior, but to allow for the fact that he IS only 7, not 16, so he, along with every other child his age, is still learning good social skills, etc.
She wrote back saying what a good day he had today, he's making friends, yaddayaddayadda. And this is what she wrote about the bathroom thing.
"I was relieved to hear that the undressing in the bathroom was something he had done before and is somewhat normal for him. I clearly jumped to the wrong conclusion and I apologize. He has been so emotional and defensive that I didn’t know what to think. I know it has been a hard year for him. If today was any indication, we have turned a corner."
I think I finally got her to see a line had been crossed, and it wasn't ok. So hopefully it's downhill from here.
downhill!?
Poor choice of words....I was trying to find a way to say "easier" and I started thinking "uphill=difficulty, work", so "Downhill must=easy" Hahahah...I need "word check" not spellcheck, hahaha.
WHEW I got nervous as I was reading.
Glad the teacher herself admits she was hasty without you having to go any further. Hope this took some weight off you.
Maybe you can plan some things for Tyler with some of the other little ones in your hall and/or the neighboring ones if there aren't any in his immediate age range right there.
Once he's settled into a routine (with the new school environment) and in addition has some extra activities (getting to make friends in the hall)maybe it'll help with the transition things will start to feel more like home.
Yeah, I keep meaning to get together with one mom in the congregation that shares our hall. Her son is in the class next to Tyler's, and they sometimes play together at recess.
Problem is, there are two kids his age in our hall....one just moved to Australia last week with his family, the other is....let's just say, it's better to keep a close eye on them when he's around. He's been known to fib quite a bit, and do things and blame them on the other kids.
There are other kids a bit older, most of them girls, and the other two boys that are in our hall are either not there most of the time, or attempting to show Tyler neat tricks like, what an Indian Burn feels like, or how much a noogie hurts.
Yeah, we got some winners out here, hahahaha.
Awww that's tough.
Well be patient with that... I'm sure it'll work out. Anywayze you're tons of fun and a great mom ;)
Thanks, Sweets!!!!
Livy, we're SO not havin' kids
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