the young people in our hall were counseled not to hug or kiss on the cheek. the elders told us it was inapropriate. it's really hard for me not to do those things because 1 my culture is like that and 2 i'm an affectionate person.
i don't know what you're talking about all the time when you say "your culture", because you live 15 mins south of me, and you have pretty much lived there your whole life, right? like, are your parents first generation europeans? did they come on on the boat? did they have pony? we ALLL had pony! my sister had pony! my brother had pony! (who comes to a NON-pony country?)
oh please you know what i mean. i was raised more like a european than an american. my italian heritage made me the person i've grown to become. it is my culture. how many americans can say that they had dinner with their ENTIRE family every sunday night growing up? i'm just saying that it's the way i was brought up. (what was the pony thing from i remember that...)
it was from seinfeld. what does this mean, raised more european than american?? how many times have you watched Top of the Pops or Neighbors? Did you cry for days when the Queen Mother died because of all that her position symbolized? Do you think that the Naked Chef's wife is hot? (I add that because I think she is). Have you ever complained because of the value of a Euro?? These are things that are European. Having dinner with the family...this is American.
(ohhh yes how could i forget sein) haha top of the pops-great show! i was glued to the tv when the queen mother died (and when anything happends in europe for that matter) but not because of her position-that would be wrong. i do think the naked chef AND his wife are hot (because they are). i haven't been back to europe since the euro. maybe i should have you come to a family thing and let's see how ameriGAN you think i am.
(yeah seinfeld rules that was the one where elaine had to sit at the kiddie table) anyway are you REALLY european...have you ever worn a uniform to school, have you ever wished you were American, have you ever played on cobblestone streets before having an espresso and a belgian waffle with choclate in a bistro while you waited for the rain to stop?
she must be european...i picked that up from her insulting comment about me and all my broken home friends. (jk...eating dinner as a family must be cool, tho. i'll have to wait until the new system to see what that's like. i'll be a first-generation dinner-together-eater)
i insulted you??
jk = just kidding (i could never take offense...but i am jealous) ;)
no jealousy. it's all good.
yeah well, this system sux...i just realized i'm at least a 4th generation broken home...and i hate it!
(haha and we have kiddie tables at dinner!) no uniforms. i would never wish to be american because patriotism is wrong. my heart belongs in italy where yes i've played on cobblestone streets before having an espresso but it was a sfoiatelli i had while waiting for the rain to stop.
haha i we used to have to sit at the kid's table too. i always wished that i was at the adult table. now that i can sit there, i realize how boring it is and wish i was back at the kids table. i used to love sunday family dinners at my grandparents.
sitting at the big table wasn't so great cus they usually put me on the end by the dog or where two tables meet where it's impossible to keep your dish flat. i miss ma and pa so much. i always think of him when someone overcooks pasta.
one thing weird about Italians...is that the single people wont hug or kiss...well i mean..two single people..opposite sex wont...if one person is married, its cool, otherwise, its not really acceptable. i found that really weird, especially cuz italians are known to be super kissy and affectionate.
it's not like that with my italian friends but we are SUPER close
yea, i didnt mean like italian-americans..or really close friends...but here, as soon as we meet someone we always hug...in Italy, it wasnt like that.
oh yeah you're definitely right!
yeah i would keep doing it anyway. i hug all my friends, guys or girls
we do...they just scowl at us when we do it now.
and i hug old people. i'm an impartial hugger. unless its a wacko. i don't hug wackos. i.e. a really weird guy who i may have certain uh "suspicions" about, or a flirty girl
unless they can show it to you in print in any of the society's publications, it is just their opinion. my sister cong. is like that and they are crazy not to mention seriously unbalanced about things. Like Tina said-hug rapes are bad, (who wants them anyway?)but hugs are an acceptable form of greeting in this area so no one can say you can't do it. They just come naturally!
i know i asked them if there was an article. it's not like we're groping each other.
haha. we used to be friends w/ this guy who would do what we called "the crush and touch" (remember jenn?). He would hug you real tight w/ his arms low and then somehow touch the top of your butt w/ his hands at the end of the hug. that was def hug rape-gross. but we can't let a couple fools ruin it for the rest of us.
no way!! that's not cool. you know what's so cute. my little sister used to do "squeeze your guts out hugs" after the meetings she would stand up on a chair so she could reach people and they would come over to say hi and give her a hug and she'd squeeze em as tight as she could.
ewwwwww, yea. That was gross.