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flyingfree1125 by flyingfree1125 · Feb 26, 2003 · 704 views · · · Journal

This thought suddenly crossed my mind today durning a science test.... is it wrong to hug? I personally love getting hugs. It's the highlight of my day! But I know that in some congregrations it's very different. I think that hugs are like the best thing you could eeeeeeeeeever get..... except something relating to Superman. Any comments?

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punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

my entire congregation hugs each other everytime they see each other. its like a huge group hug every meeting...ahahaha

flyingfree1125 flyingfree1125OG 2001 ·

mine too! i loooooooove it!

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder ·

i hug everybody

flyingfree1125 flyingfree1125OG 2001 ·

everyone u hang out with would be a better description it think...

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

no he hugs everyone....including that bum on the street...ya know the one, yeap HIM

flyingfree1125 flyingfree1125OG 2001 ·

ahhhhhh i got it now

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder ·

correct. i hug EVERYBODY!!

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 ·

you hug whore.

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gollumOG 2003 ·

ya gotta be careful *how * u hug sumbody!

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

yea, hug rapes are the worst.

delliott101 delliott101OG 2002 ·

Hey Allie, remember when Brother Adams first visited...? He brought out in the First Century the instruction was to greet each other with a holy kiss (I'll look up the reference)... well, he was like "If you don't want to give a kiss, then hug!"

You know me, anyway... a big hugger. So is Di and our congregations in our Hall are very open and loving like that!


So I'll make sure I keep giving you a "holy hug"

hunkpapap hunkpapapOG 2003 ·

hugs are great. You get that warm feeling. No bear hugs tho..

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002 ·

this is so funny, cuz in my hall, i'm used to giving girls i know well a hug and most others a kiss on the cheek (you know, a quick lean in for kiss...). anyway, when i went to the movies with some of you guys, i leaned in for the quick kiss, and it was awkward cuz i don't think anyone was expecting that. it's kinda wierd when u visit, ain't it?

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002 ·

and then with guys, i'm used to the handshake where you sorta lock right arms and pat each other with the left hand. but u guys were doing two-handed hugs. (or was that just dave...hmmm)

delliott101 delliott101OG 2002 ·

I'm a hugger... see my comment above, too!

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 ·

it seems like people out of NY and NJ never really hug or kiss...i remember in NC it'd be super awkward if u gave someone a kiss on the cheek. weird.

magnum magnumOG 2001 ·

yo im down for that in whatever state im in!

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

the young people in our hall were counseled not to hug or kiss on the cheek. the elders told us it was inapropriate. it's really hard for me not to do those things because 1 my culture is like that and 2 i'm an affectionate person.

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 ·

i don't know what you're talking about all the time when you say "your culture", because you live 15 mins south of me, and you have pretty much lived there your whole life, right? like, are your parents first generation europeans? did they come on on the boat? did they have pony? we ALLL had pony! my sister had pony! my brother had pony! (who comes to a NON-pony country?)

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

oh please you know what i mean. i was raised more like a european than an american. my italian heritage made me the person i've grown to become. it is my culture. how many americans can say that they had dinner with their ENTIRE family every sunday night growing up? i'm just saying that it's the way i was brought up. (what was the pony thing from i remember that...)

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 ·

it was from seinfeld. what does this mean, raised more european than american?? how many times have you watched Top of the Pops or Neighbors? Did you cry for days when the Queen Mother died because of all that her position symbolized? Do you think that the Naked Chef's wife is hot? (I add that because I think she is). Have you ever complained because of the value of a Euro?? These are things that are European. Having dinner with the family...this is American.

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

(ohhh yes how could i forget sein) haha top of the pops-great show! i was glued to the tv when the queen mother died (and when anything happends in europe for that matter) but not because of her position-that would be wrong. i do think the naked chef AND his wife are hot (because they are). i haven't been back to europe since the euro. maybe i should have you come to a family thing and let's see how ameriGAN you think i am.

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 ·

(yeah seinfeld rules that was the one where elaine had to sit at the kiddie table) anyway are you REALLY european...have you ever worn a uniform to school, have you ever wished you were American, have you ever played on cobblestone streets before having an espresso and a belgian waffle with choclate in a bistro while you waited for the rain to stop?

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002 ·

she must be european...i picked that up from her insulting comment about me and all my broken home friends. (jk...eating dinner as a family must be cool, tho. i'll have to wait until the new system to see what that's like. i'll be a first-generation dinner-together-eater)

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

i insulted you??

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002 ·

jk = just kidding (i could never take offense...but i am jealous) ;)

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 · ok4now

no jealousy. it's all good.

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002 · forrestina

yeah well, this system sux...i just realized i'm at least a 4th generation broken home...and i hate it!

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

(haha and we have kiddie tables at dinner!) no uniforms. i would never wish to be american because patriotism is wrong. my heart belongs in italy where yes i've played on cobblestone streets before having an espresso but it was a sfoiatelli i had while waiting for the rain to stop.

beachbum beachbumOG 2002 ·

haha i we used to have to sit at the kid's table too. i always wished that i was at the adult table. now that i can sit there, i realize how boring it is and wish i was back at the kids table. i used to love sunday family dinners at my grandparents.

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

sitting at the big table wasn't so great cus they usually put me on the end by the dog or where two tables meet where it's impossible to keep your dish flat. i miss ma and pa so much. i always think of him when someone overcooks pasta.

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 ·

one thing weird about Italians...is that the single people wont hug or kiss...well i mean..two single people..opposite sex wont...if one person is married, its cool, otherwise, its not really acceptable. i found that really weird, especially cuz italians are known to be super kissy and affectionate.

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

it's not like that with my italian friends but we are SUPER close

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 ·

yea, i didnt mean like italian-americans..or really close friends...but here, as soon as we meet someone we always hug...in Italy, it wasnt like that.

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

oh yeah you're definitely right!

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder ·

yeah i would keep doing it anyway. i hug all my friends, guys or girls

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

we do...they just scowl at us when we do it now.

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder ·

and i hug old people. i'm an impartial hugger. unless its a wacko. i don't hug wackos. i.e. a really weird guy who i may have certain uh "suspicions" about, or a flirty girl

beachbum beachbumOG 2002 ·

unless they can show it to you in print in any of the society's publications, it is just their opinion. my sister cong. is like that and they are crazy not to mention seriously unbalanced about things. Like Tina said-hug rapes are bad, (who wants them anyway?)but hugs are an acceptable form of greeting in this area so no one can say you can't do it. They just come naturally!

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

i know i asked them if there was an article. it's not like we're groping each other.

beachbum beachbumOG 2002 ·

haha. we used to be friends w/ this guy who would do what we called "the crush and touch" (remember jenn?). He would hug you real tight w/ his arms low and then somehow touch the top of your butt w/ his hands at the end of the hug. that was def hug rape-gross. but we can't let a couple fools ruin it for the rest of us.

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

no way!! that's not cool. you know what's so cute. my little sister used to do "squeeze your guts out hugs" after the meetings she would stand up on a chair so she could reach people and they would come over to say hi and give her a hug and she'd squeeze em as tight as she could.

jay79 jay79OG 2001 ·

ewwwwww, yea. That was gross.

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 ·

i know that guy!! he freaks me out too

beachbum beachbumOG 2002 ·

man, you got the crush & touch too? i doubt you know him but tell me the initials of who you think it is.

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rocksupastarFounder ·

My mom hates when i hug girls, she says that its just innapropriate.... oh well, i have always hugged people, and i still will...

hunkpapap hunkpapapOG 2003 ·

man i ended up dating a girl once because of a hug thing. It was a friend of mine and i hugged her at the end of a wedding reception. She thought that meant i liked her even though i did it to a number of other sisters and she started calling me and hanging out more. The whole time i didn't know it was because of the hug. Anyway that was 3 years ago and now she is amrried and was on the cover of last years wedding awake.....

reaf reafOG 2002 ·

it seems your luck with the ladies is crazy!

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 ·

yeah i had to place that awake, and you know what, she wasn't that pretty.

reaf reafOG 2002 ·

ha

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 ·

wooooooah i made reaf laugh...but just becuase you laughed, don't think this changes anything between us, your car is still gettin lowered this weekend, whether you want it to or not

magnum magnumOG 2001 ·

u got a ha, not a haha which is a certified laugh, u got half a chuckle if that from her

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 ·

quiet crappola, or your car is gettin the wheels stolen

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 ·

all i gotta do is call up jahanna and give the word, and your gas tank is gonna be filled with salt. or sugar. or possibly hairspray. i can't remember which.

deanh77 deanh77Founder ·

a golf-ball full of anti-freeze. wait, no. def. do not do that.

magnum magnumOG 2001 ·

hah she could care less what u say, cause shes my friend u evil one

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 · magnum

hahhaa, yea i'm like barney, i'm everyone's friend.

ekulu ekuluOG 2002 · tesoro

and you're big and purple

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 · tesoro

not mine...you wacko

hunkpapap hunkpapapOG 2003 ·

that's what we should do sat morn. Toilet paper and wet someones car. I say a certain yellow xterra...

hunkpapap hunkpapapOG 2003 ·

you have NOOO idea. I don't know how these women find me. But this is my theory: on the back of their weekend pass from the asylum is my picture and a map to my house........

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 ·

hahaha, thats terrible! yet a really good explanation.

delliott101 delliott101OG 2002 ·

Hugs are better than drugs

flyingfree1125 flyingfree1125OG 2001 ·

ooo a little ryhme nice.

web-toedchloe web-toedchloeOG 2001 ·

There's so many comments on this already. Ally, you know I love to hug. I don't know what I'd do if we didn't hug. I think I'd be sad. But hugging you makes me happy! :)

flyingfree1125 flyingfree1125OG 2001 ·

awwwwwww i feel loved

delliott101 delliott101OG 2002 ·

(In my best William Shatner voice): You are loved, Allie... You.... are.... loved

ekulu ekuluOG 2002 ·

we all just shake hands. I'd like to be hugged more...

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002 ·

well, there you go. move to jersey

ekulu ekuluOG 2002 ·

um..., i'll think about it :/

flyingfree1125 flyingfree1125OG 2001 ·

yeh, move to to jersey

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002 ·

I have this whole idea of how amazing hugging really is for people. Like..I have this one friend who gets mad a lot and I insist on hugging him all the time even if he tells me not to and punches me when I try. Because I think that like when your sad and someone hugs you it may not solve anything or even make you better at the time but subconciously it totally did make things better. It just feels like someone loves you, so even if they don't want to be hugged and are repulsed at the very idea it just means they need more hug

delliott101 delliott101OG 2002 ·

Hugging, I have found, is a very personal and emotional thing. It really displays tenderness of affection and closeness. If any of us go through a very difficult and trying situation, a hug (a REAL hug) is pretty much body language for saying: "I don't know what to tell you, but I'm feeling for you and I'm here for you"... If it's a happy occasion, a hug is like saying: "I'm so happy for you, I'm sharing your joy!" And it also gives the huggers, if it's part of a regular greeting or whatnot, it's like "You are a really special friend and I love you alot"...

It's something that draws me to people and it's also a great barometer of one's heart, in my opinion. Words say one thing, but a hug really tells much about one's personality... like whether that person genuinely likes you or not. Some people find it hard to hug, maybe as part of culture or whatnot, but you can usually tell..

malibu malibuOG 2001 ·

and found out the other day that it is a proven point that babies who get hugged and touched more often when they are younger do better in life because they were shown that affection.

iwz iwz ·

these kinds of hugs are always funny:



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skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 ·

hahhahah "A-frame" hugs

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

okay to me it looks like a guy being very naughty to a girl.

hunkpapap hunkpapapOG 2003 ·

HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002 ·

a girl with no arms...

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rocksupastarFounder ·

or much else, for that matter, i dont know how that could be construed as naughty.... hahahha

jay79 jay79OG 2001 ·

hey leave her alone...she's using her imaginationnnnnnnnnn

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

oh man if i used my imagination with that... it woulda been a lot worse hahahahaha

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rocksupastarFounder ·

tisk tisk.... someone is being VERY bad today...

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

lol and everyday

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rocksupastarFounder ·

well i for one, am stumbled.

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 · rocksupastar

what were you going to be stumbled for 3? ill take stumbled for 300 jonny

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002 · punkprincess

i think he said he's taking stumbled for 1

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rocksupastarFounder · ok4now

I think she is just dumb...

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002 · rocksupastar

whattaya want, a crumb?

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

looks like a crab

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

or the aliens on sesame street....yip yip yip yip yip yip

hunkpapap hunkpapapOG 2003 ·

THE YUP YUPS. I love those guys.....

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

i was mesmerized whenever they came on

iwz iwz ·

ugh you guys are killing me!! ok, here's a more detailed drawing for those of you with overactive imaginations.


punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

wow! an x! so kool!

iwz iwz ·

haha, fixed it!

deanh77 deanh77Founder ·

oh its a guy and a girl slow dancing at a formal while 5 elders watch them.

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

make sure you have your insight books between you kids

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002 ·

ok...NOW i see tina's point (jk)

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

you know whats the worst? the "air kisses" but seriuosly, if you DONT air kiss, its kinda weird... like have you ever had someone kiss your cheek flat on and you kissed the air... its just like...ummm eerrrr...weird

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crazygirlOG 2001 ·

yes, those are so strange. your like ok...i just kissed the air but the person doesnt know so..just aqward(?)

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

i saw my friend and pretended like i was really going to kiss him and he was going for it! all i thought was i gotta cheek it quick.

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 ·

hahahhah! tina, what does this remind you of? remember i went to give billy cunningham a hug, and he thought i was gonna kiss him, and he was all freaked out, and i was freaked out cuz i didnt know what HE was doing. hahahahhaha soooooooo hysterical.

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

haha yea good times.

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

shut up i know that kid!

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 ·

i will NOT shut up! haha :)

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

how do you know all the people i know and we do not know each other????

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 ·

Tina, didnt you meet Forreste the same day I did? at dan's?

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

i remember dan bringing me into his bedroom and he's like this is forrestina---i made a swift exit cus i was a little overwhelmed

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 ·

i know you can be overwhelmed...but can you be just "whelmed"???

forrestina forrestinaOG 2002 ·

sucha great line

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

like i love my prada backpack

flyingfree1125 flyingfree1125OG 2001 ·

but like my sketchers

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 · flyingfree1125

that is a really good movie. SHOOT bianca i'm shooting a nose spray ad tomorrow!!

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 ·

backpack backpack backpack!!!!!!! So, Jahanna, what WAS the name of your 9th grade english teacher? Tina, i still hate you for that. :-D

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 · tesoro

lol i wanted you to shut up soooo bad...all i had to say was dora the explorer hahahaa sweeet sleeeeeep

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 · tesoro

dont' wanna talk about it?? i say why not, must be something something something LITTLE BLACK BACKPACK

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 · skaorsk8

bloody black back pack.

hunkpapap hunkpapapOG 2003 · skaorsk8

and i'm like dude isn't that your backpack and you're like no and i'm like bullcorn man...

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

oh yea, but still isnt it weird that we didnt know her before?

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

hey btw i can talk online now, but yer not here!!

flyingfree1125 flyingfree1125OG 2001 ·

just about everybody knows that kid.

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002 ·

bill cunningham is pretty cool....i haven't seen him in a while though

beachbum beachbumOG 2002 ·

that's b/c he has his hands full w/ allyson. bill is great.

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 ·

hahahaha

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