wait a sec. are you saying you gave someone a present and you haven't yet received a "thank you" card for it, and you're thinking about asking when you will get it?
because that seems a bit rude. writing a "thank you" card is not a requirement for receiving a gift. it's just a nice thing to do. some people don't ever send one, and that's their prerogative.
a friend of mine got married recently. I bought her a total of four gifts all through the engagement period for different events I was invited to. I only received one thank you card after the engagement party. I think she should have sent one. I spent a lot of my hard-earned money on her and I think she should be acknowledging it.
honestly, i couldnt complain about spending "hard earned money" esp for a friend. ya know what i mean?
and did she give you a formal thank you when you were at the shower (ie thank you for coming, thank you for sharing this with me)? that should be enough, dont you think?
well number 1, you dont know my financial situation and number 2 you dont my relationship with my friend. Anyway I dont see what that has to do with. A thank you card should be sent whether the money was hard earned or not.
no i dont know any of that and im sorry to offend you...i dont mean to. but you dont know whats on her agenda either. one friend, i rec'd the thank you card 7 months later. they got busy, family death, lay-offs. so you dont know what the stall is. or maybe she just didnt send any thank yous to anyone. maybe thats just her.
its ok. The only reason I was wondering is because my mom who gave several of her own gifts as well keeps asking me where it is. She thinks I should ask my friend.
you're looking at it wrong, in my opinion. you love your friend, and you gave her gifts motivated by that love, not because you expected acknowledgment.
do you think she doesn't appreciate the gifts if she doesn't send a card? because, i'm sure she appreciates the gifts. or did she not say thank you in person when she received them?
i dont remember but technically the thank you in person is for actually attending the event and the written thank you is for the gift
you missed my point.
oh sorry
i dont think you understand how much is going on after an event like that... to be honest, thank you cards are pretty much bottom of the priority list after a wedding... least imo
Last wedding I went to, I got the TY card like 6 months later. By then I forgot I even went. Didn't matter to me.
that's probably true but i know that she will be off on monday and doesnt have anything to do.... so i was wondering if maybe a gentle reminder would be helpful.
Then you might say to your friend something like, "My mom has been asking about a 'thank you' card. It would mean a lot to her if she received one from you."
yeah, i like that... thanks!