we may feel we're thru with the past but the past is never thru with us. as much as we think we change--we still retain literally everything we experience since we literally are just bundles of sensory organs and crude and complex data compilation networks. we change because we can develop what feels like a mastery over our actions and behavioral trends and the thinking that governs these. not because we truly change, but because we think denial and purging an experience from our growth process is the true way to deal with it and thus continue to grow. i think we should embrace every experience we have, good or bad, and be the true sums of the lives that we've lived, only then can true change take place. the worth and appreciation [opposite of depreciation] of our lives should show nakedly in our every interaction. hiding behind the multitude of shields and vain masks we construct for ourselves dehumanizes us and those with whom we interact. as a side note: i like that the 'valenti girls' have the guts to display their problems and feelings for us all to see. i respect that very much.