hmm..i'm not sayin this is the way it SHOULD be...but what i'd do is:
-Telling the other person you like them-i would
-Asking the other person out-i wouldnt
-Holding hands-i highly doubt it
-Kissing-if he held my hand already..possibly, but probably not.
-Saying I Love You-all him
-Proposing-i definatly wouldnt
so basically...the guy has to do everything, but it's just a formality b/c he'd KNOW if i wanted to kiss him or loved him or whatever..it's not like a shot in the dark.