Is it old-fashioned or the way it should be?
by A lot of guys and girls think that guys should be the one to initiate things in a relationship. What do you think regarding:
-Telling the other person you like them.
-Asking the other person out.
-Holding hands
-Kissing
-Saying I Love You
-Proposing
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hey, i never answered my own thread:
-Telling the other person you like them---> i think either
-Asking the other person out ----> the guy
-Holding hands---->either
-Kissing----> the guy
-Saying I Love You ---->either
-Proposing ----> totally the guy
i agree with all of these.
* i think you can show the person and if its reciprocated then you can go from there and save any embarrassment
* there's a safe way to ask them out....let them know theres a group going and then invite them and if the 2 of yuo hit it off then you can "hang out" together
* all him, but you "know"
* i think him but then again, guys make this obvious
* ALL him
* ALL HIM
yeah thats pretty much the idea
Your answer didn't answer anything.
Yo everybody I think girls have the same rights guys do!
wow, you are amazing, if i were a girl id sooo make out with you
1) Telling the other person you like them. ----Either, but i'd do it.
2) Asking the other person out---guys job after you've said you like him
3) Holding hands----i think girls love this so much more than guys so them.
4) Saying I Love You ----Either
5) Proposing----Guys. no question. and do the asking dad thing. good idea.
so when is it ok to sit toghether at the meeting?
Good question because that's usually an obvious indicator of being 'together'.
does it have to be? maybe you're just 'friends'
Well see..I think when you're just friends it's cool but then sometimes the second people become more then friends they're instantly not sitting near each other anymore cause it's not appropriate or something. Or were you talking about 'just friends' as not really 'just friends'?
that depends on whether you're in the same congregation too....cause if you are, its obviously much more serious to do it then if you arent
how so? i don't agree with this.
cuz if ur not in the same hall, the guy just vists u and sits next to u and stuff the cong notices more cuz hes all mysterious... they r like "never seen him b4, they MUST be dating"... dude, once i got talked to cuz i had my two guys friends come to the meeting with me and i sat in between them and i got talked to cuz that was "not approprate" and it "Gave off the wrong impression" gr
Well it is inapporpriate... your dad should have told you to move and sit next to them, instead of the guys....
we were all sitting in the same row...summer and i were also sitting next to them and my parents were sitting next to us as well
Well, your sister should have been sitting in between your parents...
haha ok there buddie,,, lemme tell ya how thats gonna happen REAL soon...
you do realize she's 17 years old giac
haha yea... he swears i'm 5
Not 5, 12... get it straight!
dude, she's definately 13
how about making out @ the meeting, when is that appropriate?...
only in the 2nd school
wait, so, the intial statement, is stupid..but..the response is funny?..shouldn't they both be funny, or both be stupid, by association?..I'M OUTRAGED!..lol
hahaha, i hear ya....i think you were wronged
haahhaa, you stink, I turned your crap into gold!
Haha. The first time I sat with my boyfriend at his meeting an elder in his hall told us that if we can't keep our courtship honorable we should go to the Justice of the Peace. I guess sitting together is a sign of bad things to come.
whoa..that's rough. For some reason..no one has ever approached my on my relationship. It's been made pretty clear, I think, but nothing has ever been said to me. Wait.that's a lie. It was clearly explained there is to be no physical contact at assemblies (touch his arm..hugs..etc.)
wait what?! are you serious? so you couldnt hold his hand walking around at the convention?
Well..it started with his arm on the back of my chair (not around me..I can still how this is a problem anyways) but because he was obviously poking the person next to me. So I was told I shouldn't be letting that happen which pretty much turned into no public displays of affection at the assemblies.
I dunno if that was an example of what I'm about to mention or not, but you know what I can't stand?!..when people, older people, take something that's no more than their opinion, and try to push it on younger people as fact and make it seem like they have scriptural basis, cause they're old & they can do stuff like that w/out getting questioned, lol...Like I said, your situation might not have been an example of that at all..but..sheesh
Sometimes old people say funny things about dating to..example:
I was in the car out in service with two older sisters (like..old) and I wasn't really paying to much attention to what they were asking me so when they asked if I had like a single boy I was serious about and I said "no.." I do stuff like that a lot when I'm not paying attention, I just answer without even going over the question first. Well, they said that this was good because you shouldn't just stay with one boy, I should have fun and go out with as many boys as I want to. Perhaps they should rewrite the YPA book?
I love warped advice. That's right, go sow your wild oats.
I didn't take offense, this brother is cool and I was told he sometimes says things that are off the wall. However, it isn't right for someone to push their beliefs of what is right and wrong on you--when it has no scriptural basis. AND IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME!!! Personal opinions should be left out of counsel. I shudder to think what my Mom would have done to that elder if I had followed his advice.
i wouldn't mind doing any of these or having them done to me. proposing i think would be too daunting for me tho.
You better not propose to a guy!!!
haha why not...i wanna go to arruba like everyone else
Then buy a plane or ship ticket and get there, but dont propose, its his responsibility!
show me this in writing
Here are my choices:
-Telling the other person you like them. Either
-Asking the other person out. GUY If a girl asks a guy out she can look to be desperate
-Holding hands Either Its awkward if a guy goes to hold hands with a girl and she pulls away, yet if she goes first the guy wont hold back
-Kissing GUY Once again if a girl does it she is randy
-Saying I Love You Either
-Proposing GUY
you got a little bit tired half way through?
I finished it!!!
-Telling the other person you like themI think both should count to 3 and say it @ the same time...
-Asking the other person out Yeah, girls that ask guys out are usually hard up for a guy, they wouldn't have to ask if there was guys after them..word
-Holding handsawww, one of the cutest relationship related activities..besides eskimo kisses(do they really kiss like that?)..umm..I think either or can initiate this
-Kissing The guy, but, only if she gives you the go ahead..What's the go ahead?..My experience is it's when she can't supress her feelings for you anymore and is over come w/red hot passion and pounces on you...like a lioness pounces on a gazelle in the wild..
-Saying I Love YouI dunno, I think girl for some reason, but, the guy better say it back..or else trouble's soon to come
-Proposing GUY ALL THE WAY....you know how awkward a guy would feel if his girlfriend proposed to him?...I mean, it's just abnormal
Paying for dinerGIRL..haha...j/k..unless you really wanna.
-Telling the other person you like them- I HIRE THE PURPLE TELETUBBY FOR A TELEGRAM
-Asking the other person out- I LITTLE NOTE WRITTEN IN MY BLOOD
-Holding hands- NOT UNTIL WE HAVE RELATIONS
-Kissing- ONLY MY FEET
-Saying I Love You- ONLY IF SHE STEPS ON AND DISTINGUISHES HERSELF FROM THE HIEREM
-Proposing- I PROPOSE SHE SERVE ME CHILLI
and they all clicked the 'back' button
i roofled!
hahahahahahahahahahaha...ha..ha..::cough::..ha...h..a....yeah, I, um, I think I just lost like 10 pounds simply from laughing.....maybe it's just the frame of mind i was in when I read this, but, lol!
a woman must have modded this as stupid. 'CUZ THIS WAS DAMN FUNNY!
Whoah..we can't say point whore but you can say the bad version of a brick thingy that holds back water?
well bricks don't sell their concrete for money...
yay, my thread was recycled
hmm..i'm not sayin this is the way it SHOULD be...but what i'd do is:
-Telling the other person you like them-i would
-Asking the other person out-i wouldnt
-Holding hands-i highly doubt it
-Kissing-if he held my hand already..possibly, but probably not.
-Saying I Love You-all him
-Proposing-i definatly wouldnt
so basically...the guy has to do everything, but it's just a formality b/c he'd KNOW if i wanted to kiss him or loved him or whatever..it's not like a shot in the dark.
yeah, i like that last part you added...its not like you just sit there and don't let him know anything you feel until he makes all the moves...but its more of an official thing...a formality (nice word)
yeah, great word...spock
-Telling the other person you like them. go for it. don't wait forever cuz it may never come.
-Asking the other person out. isn't this the same question?
-Holding hands only when you're sure
-Kissing i waited til i proposed, but your results may vary
-Saying I Love You when you're sure he's sure
-Proposing i'm old-fashioned. i definitely expect the guy to take care of this. and for bonus points, ask for dad's permission. (that's HER dad, dummy)
hahaha, HER dad, i love it
man, you are super modern when it comes to this stuff. I think the guy should definitely, be the first to kiss, first to say i love you, and most certainly the one to propose. I guess the other 3 could be done by either...but i'm still pretty old-fashioned.
are you serious...man. that's crazy. modern...girls can be more bold...not chasing...but be cool enough to say "yo...what's up here?!" that's a good thing. the proposing can be the guy's dept...but the i love you...the kissing...these do not have to be all the guy.
yeah, i changed my mind on the i love you part...that can be either...the kissing....i'm still promoting the guy initiation
and the proposing....it's always gonna be a guy job, (somebody should tell silly controling monica this)