this illustrates why your commenting on mike coming has upset everyone so much. not every marriage is the same. we understand that you are married longer and thus have more experience, but you shouldn't impose your opinion about the way mike and katie spend their time with each other and without. i know couples that the husband goes to play basketball every week and the wife hangs out with her girlfriends that night. i also know couples that go out and do everything together. there is nothing wrong with either scenario-they have happy marriages. if katie wants to come she will.