It just seems to me that people who talk about "soulmates" aren't going to be satisfied with any relationship they enter into because there are always going to be changes they need to make to make it work and they'll always be wondering if they couldn't find someone better.
One caveat: I've only recently even begun to think about finding a nice sister to marry, so maybe I'm not the best person to give advice on relationships. (However, I have heard similar comments from brothers and sisters who have been happily married for a long time, so I don't think I'm that off-base.)
Oh..I was really asking for advice, I just wanted to know everyone's thoughts on the idea of soul mates. My sisters and I have always used the term and I wasn't sure if anyone else did until I heard my pioneer-assist friend mention how even though she's older she still wants to find hers. I'm in a relationship with a person I really love a lot and I know we both have a lot of things we have to work on to get along with each other even better but that doesn't mean I don't think we're soul mates, because I do.
Maybe it's different for sisters. Or maybe I'm just weird. If you truly believe that you have found your soulmate then I'm very happy for you and I wish you all the best in your future relationship. I just know that recently I've been agonizing over how I'm going to find a sister who I like and who even remotely likes me. Compound that with the fact that I am not fiscally, spiritually, or emotionally ready to get married and I am quite distressed about the whole idea. The prospect of having to worry about whether the other person is my "soulmate" or not is too disheartening for me to even deal with, so I choose not to believe in soulmates.
I can totally see how there are just so many things to deal with that it really is just another added worry to think about soulmates. On the other hand, it's a really nice thought if you think you have found your soul mate. You can just look at that person and be like "wow..despite the differences and all the work we still have to do to make this work, we're perfect for one another."