Soul Mates
by Does anyone believe in the concept of soul mates? You don't have to believe in the idea that two people were made for each other because we know how creation works and all..but just that every person has one other person that is perfect for them. See..I think that two people can tolerate each other and think it's love and get married. And two people can love each other a lot and get married and be happy..but that may not be there soul mate because there may be some one out there that you didn't find that was even more perfect for them. Like..you can be satisfied with one person and not even know they're not your soul mate..but if you met your soul mate, then you would know. I don't know really..it's like kindred spirits or something.
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i think your soul mate and your love can be completely differnet concepts. i have many friends that can read my like a color by number picture. it doesn't mean i am in love with them though or destined to be with them. but it doesn't change the fact that we're kindered spirits and are similiar people and therefore great friends.
i dont believe in the word soul mate... we are all imperfect people i dont believe there is someone out there that is perfect for you.. you may act well together and if married live well together but thats only becuz of the help of jehovah i said it once ill say it again i dont believe in soul mates.
I think that you can say you love someone enough to make them your soul mate if you always put their happiness above yours. If you want to be with them even when they annoy you, if they make you better, and if you make them better. I think the concept as the world uses it has to do with reincarnation, though, so you might want to be careful who you say it to. I think I've found my "soul mate" because I want to make him happy all the time and I want to be a better person for him. He understands me like no one else can and I feel more comfortable with him than anyone. I think that's what's important.
well said. i agree. officially, we can flush that word down the crapper.
I really don't think there's any such thing as soulmates. I think the whole idea is just a reflection of this world's attitude that "you are who are and if people don't like that they can kiss your a**". There are certainly people that you'll get along with better than others, but all relationships are going to involve making yourself over to better fit with the other person. If you're not willing to do that then you shouldn't bother.
Shouldn't bother what? I'm not saying we're all 'destined' to be with someone but that there may be one person above all other people that you get along with.
It just seems to me that people who talk about "soulmates" aren't going to be satisfied with any relationship they enter into because there are always going to be changes they need to make to make it work and they'll always be wondering if they couldn't find someone better.
One caveat: I've only recently even begun to think about finding a nice sister to marry, so maybe I'm not the best person to give advice on relationships. (However, I have heard similar comments from brothers and sisters who have been happily married for a long time, so I don't think I'm that off-base.)
Oh..I was really asking for advice, I just wanted to know everyone's thoughts on the idea of soul mates. My sisters and I have always used the term and I wasn't sure if anyone else did until I heard my pioneer-assist friend mention how even though she's older she still wants to find hers. I'm in a relationship with a person I really love a lot and I know we both have a lot of things we have to work on to get along with each other even better but that doesn't mean I don't think we're soul mates, because I do.
Maybe it's different for sisters. Or maybe I'm just weird. If you truly believe that you have found your soulmate then I'm very happy for you and I wish you all the best in your future relationship. I just know that recently I've been agonizing over how I'm going to find a sister who I like and who even remotely likes me. Compound that with the fact that I am not fiscally, spiritually, or emotionally ready to get married and I am quite distressed about the whole idea. The prospect of having to worry about whether the other person is my "soulmate" or not is too disheartening for me to even deal with, so I choose not to believe in soulmates.
I can totally see how there are just so many things to deal with that it really is just another added worry to think about soulmates. On the other hand, it's a really nice thought if you think you have found your soul mate. You can just look at that person and be like "wow..despite the differences and all the work we still have to do to make this work, we're perfect for one another."
Yeah,I think the soulmate thing DOES exist, but it's more because of math reasons than anything else, there's soooooooo many people in the world, w/so many different variables forming their personalities, odds are there's more than a couple out there that you would clique with right away, that you'd be perfectly compatible with...But, the odds that you'll FIND this person, that's pretty slim...So, most of us end up w/somebody that we lovingly tolerate, as opposed to our perfect match...
yeah, but think about it. Wouldn't you get along better with someone that has alot in common with you. I dont think a person who is your perfect match with you who lives in Japan would have much in common with you.
that's kinda what I was talking about by a perfect match, haha, whoever this person is, they're most likely going to be in your cultural, social, and age bracket, and have a lot in common w/you...it's just that, whoever that person is for all of us, we'd probably never meet them cause there's just to many people in the world...BUT, I believe you can learn to love somebody who's not your identicle match..and it can be just as positive a relationship as if it were this "soulmate"
I'd be extremely disappointed to feel like I was being lovingly tolerated. I think if a person is really serious, that they believe they have found the perfect match and don't want to be told otherwise.
there's a difference between beliving or thinking that you found the perfect match.. over actually FINDING and having the perfect match... your heart clouds all matters... and stuff.. it's like a box of chocolates.. you think this dark one is perfect.. and it's all good and stuff.. but when you smear it on your body.. you find out it's peanut butter inside.. and you're allergic to peanut butter. but now if you were to gently take a bite.. and find out whats inside before smearing it all over your body.. you might have realized.. "hey this isn't the one i want to body paint with" . hope that made sense.
Once again you artfully manage to completely avoid the topic of conversation by derailing. You should get the Ezabel superlative of "Always Off-topic."
But all I was saying is that I wouldn't want to be second guessing my choice.
yea thinking that you've found your perfect match.. when you really haven't happens. happens all the time. and it's a fact of life. now you have to work together to become each others perfect match. everything is possible with a little DOing.. and trying...and chocolates
Despite the chocolate analogy..the first part makes a lot of sense.
if you think about it the chocolate analogy does too. but i think i might be toooo smart for some people
yo this isn't off topic.. YOUR MOTHER IS !
yeah, I think i was a bit cold w/how I phrased that, lol, look to my above comment, comment #10
First off, this totally sounds like lines from "Ever After" when the prince is talking to Leonardo da Vinci. But the whole soul mate thing is kinda hard to explain. I have a boyfriend now that I feel confident will be my last. I don't question that there is someone better suited for me, and I don't look at guys and I don't second guess my decision. I don't believe that a relationship has to be perfect bliss for it to be great. And if you are willing to spend your entire life with one person, you don't have to be soul mates right from the start. I think those things take time.