see, i know i will not be able to afford a large wedding at any age. (unless the guy is stinking rich)so i would really wanna throw a large party where people can just all come and party because they can't be at the wedding. maybe i'll say no presents allowed and such and if people ever wanna they can give them later. but i like the idea of this. that's really all a wedding is anyway. i don't know why they cost so much $ for weddig parties when an engagement party is the same thing.