Down with engagement parties
by So maybe I'm just cranky, but I really disagree with engagement parties for the most part. Really, they just turn it to wedding showers (which make me want to kill myself as it is) with guys allowed to come and then you have to go to the shower later on, too (with all the weddings going on its getting ridiculous). I know you aren't "obligated" to bring a present, but it's awkward if you don't. OK if you want to have a little gathering with a few friends and family like the one I'm going to Friday. It's just 15 girls-no presents, just food at a friend's house. I'm OK with that. I'm not OK with going all out and renting a place and having it catered blah blah. Am I just a cranky jerk or do I have any point at all? What do you guys think?
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I was just thinking about this a bit..wouldn't it just be more fun to go out with a bunch of your closest friends to celebrate it. That way you don't have to worry about presents (if they want to give you something..they're your best friends, let them) and you don't have to have all those family friends and relatives that you're going to have to have for the shower and wedding.
U have a point big time. One doesnt need BOTH. There is an underlying obligation to have to give em something each time. Its not that i don't want to, its just that most of us are not made of money. So one or the other is best, not both. (I prefer the shower).
look at know the answer to all of these.. all those involved in the fight... should all get into your bathing suits.. and come over and we'll have a big group hug.. big group hug to clear the air. and we'll chant songs and sonnets. and play cricket.
well, ok, but only if i get to hang out with gorki, too.
see, i know i will not be able to afford a large wedding at any age. (unless the guy is stinking rich)so i would really wanna throw a large party where people can just all come and party because they can't be at the wedding. maybe i'll say no presents allowed and such and if people ever wanna they can give them later. but i like the idea of this. that's really all a wedding is anyway. i don't know why they cost so much $ for weddig parties when an engagement party is the same thing.
while you are at it lets add baby showers and tupperware parties to the mix...
if you are serious, i love you. i am by no means opposed to giving presents for babies and weddings and whatever, but showers & tupperware are pretty boring. i'd rather just give the presents and skip the formalities. i know i don't HAVE to go to anything, but i go to showers & stuff b/c my love for my friends far outweighs my dislike of showers, etc.
I just think people should be careful as to what they write, you never know who's reading.
and i just think people should stop being so sensitive and pretending that nobody can find out who they are. i never attacked anyone personally or otherwise or forced my opinion as the only right one, it was a general thought and i just wanted to know what everyone had to say. we all have a right to our opinions. i have no reason to hide mine.
and i think that people should always strip down to their skivvies , roll up a bunch of socks.. and pretend those socks are hamsters.. and tickle them. trying to illicit laughter.
what? only the skivvies? surprising. so, how's gorki?
He's upset you didn't want to go to his Hamster party and give him a gift ! He's giving you the cold shoulder. haha
:O I would never dis gorki like that! i'm throwing him his own party, complete with mazes and gourmet hamster treats. togas mandatory
he'll like that. he's talking to me right now.. wait.. i see i see .. he said " squeek squeek squeeeeeeeeeek " ... which means " please tell her to roll me up into a tight little ball and roll me around.. and she must try to illicit laughter. because if i laugh she wins.. and tell her that she wins a night out on the town with the sexiest hamster/sock ever " ... so i'm suppose to tell you that.. you need to roll him up in a tight little ball and roll him around and you MUST illicit laughter because if you make him laugh you win and what you win is a night on the town with the sexiest hamster/sock ever !.
win a night on the town with that adorable little ball of cotton? i'm so there. he better be prepared to be tickled
hahahaha...Thai, I really wonder about you sometimes
I don't care if you know who I am. And i don't care about your opinion either. Its just funny you wrote this. Everyone knows what you are talking about. Im done talking about it. & About you not wanting to give gift. YOU NEVER give any gifts anyhow everyone is used to it. So its all good. This is over & done with.
if you don't like the topic, stay out of it. We are invited to 5 weddings between now & next spring and we have been to many this year. Its on my mind and it wasn't specific. i'm fine with ending it. i don't want to be sucked into petty nonsense.
hey, hey, break it up...unless you kids are joking around here, ezabel's not the place for these kind of thoughts - if you're this annoyed @ somebody for something, try taking the problem up w/them in 3D, real life, as opposed to just venting at them by posting stuff on here.
what are you talking. let them hustle. and rustle.
heartbreaker, this forum isnt for ripping apart someone for their "gift giving tendencies". Nobody here, knows or straight up cares what you are talking about. If you feel like you NEED to express your opinion to beacbum, send her an eZabel message, otherwise dont mention it at all. If you continue to write comments to be offensive or degrading, they will be deleted.
haha i had to. it's great
your power has gone to your head. you are crazed with it.
haha i dont know.. i find this whole thing very amusing. i know if effects people lives.. or whatever.. and in a way it is serious.. but come onnnn it's ezabel.. it's a place i come to my poopie jokes.. sooo is life. haha
you want me for my body, dont you tai?
guess u forgot what u did to me? I said what I said as advice, not a put down, and y'all turned it into a I hate ST forum?
and I apologised publically to u b/c u were so offended. I heard nothing from u, tho.
oh, was that when you sent me a copy of WT article?
no that was private. u know what i meant.
lol, nope no idea... sorry!
FIGHTTTTTTTTTTTT!...yo mike.. i heard star trooper said that your mom bakes HORRIBLE COOKIES.. and star trooper.. i heard that mike said that if you were his mom.. you'd bake WORST cookies... dont take that yo. pull his hair
not tru at all and butt out, plse.
yeah, all of you butt out, or starship trooper will stop using vowels in sentences as protest
How about everyone just take a 'chill pill' and calm down. Everything is coooool..everything is fine.
remember the alamo!
i'm pretty sure mike knows that you really didn't say his mom bakes bad cookies. i mean.. who can bake bad cookies. all cookies are good.
hmm, i havent tasted your cookies yet, wanna set up a date and taste test?
tonight... neked?
only if they are NOT with...ahem...nuts
DAN!!! steadily moving up the perv list!!!
Okay, I'm not saying that anyone is right here, and I decided to not even get involved, but that was just rude.
we going out on a date soon or what? ... how's thursday sound...
I would date you anytime!
Ugh No i love parties... I love buying people stuff..
This just shows that Beachbum is married and never had an engagement party.
you should mother.. or father my child. depending which sex you are
I would love too mother your children, i guess you were thinking the same thing as me? someone didn't get a party huh?
maybe maybe not. all i'm saying is you're hott.
Your hotter I love asians
get in liiiiiiiiiiiiiiiine ! haha
yea, behind me...BOO
everyone knows i'm married and i absolutely didn't want an engagement party. anyone who knows me knows that. so who cares.
well i think of it this way.. it's not like we celebrate christmas and birthdays.. so when there is an opporunity to party and celebrate and give gifts.. GIVE IT UP. why not. thats all i'm saying
good comment Thai...now buy me a present! :)
throw an engagement party
no, how about you just buy me a present
i'm not saying ALL engagement parties, small ones are cool, but i'm talking mainly about the ones that turn into a big deal. it gets out of hand, esp with the million weddings going on. get what i'm saying, moneybags?
i agree. it can get out of hand.
well i agree with the millions of weddings.. but thats just unusual. some weird freaky .. 2 years that everyones deciding to marry.. but a year or 2 from now.. wont be any.
this has been a big wedding year
yea people went NUT-so
I would Love too!
Yes, you are being cranky. Let people have fun and enjoy themselves. You don't want to give a gift? Don't give a gift. A gift doesn't count if it isn't given with the right spirit anyway. We're living in the end of this system of things. Surely, you have more important things to think about, worry about and complain about. Grow up.
hey wait...yeah...no one wants your opinion without a good reason
hm, for someone who obviously claims to be spiritual, that was quite an unkind comment. i'm sure i have bigger worries, but the forums are for saying what is on your mind, and this happened to be on my mind today. i leave my bigger worries to myself. it's ok to have an opinion, but lose the unwarranted attitude.
You go girl! (or boy. i don't know who you are)
haha thanks. i'm a girl
i thought you were jen degasberri's brother?
no, she's my older sister
only her younger brothers are really sisters
hahahaa, you better watch it...They've gotten bigger. I don't think you would stand much of a chance next to those "little girls" now
you act like i haven't seen them in years... haha
there are too many of you guys
well, i'm not sure if i should be offended :)
haha, no...don't be offended...it's hard to tell from names sometimes...like ophelia, sounds like it could be a girl's name, haha....and tinser....i could be a boy...but i'm not, although dan is teaching me
tinser is very feminine
really? haha, that's funny...cause originally it started out being my brothers nickname (long story about how it became mine)...but i used to be tinserette...thats even more feminine
haha it's ok. at least i don't get mistaken for my brothers over the phone like jackie does.
ouch that's gotta hurt. they say sufomejo (beginnings of each of our names in order) oh i give up.
hmmm, i didnt even know they had sucha thing... i never got one!!! WHAT IS THAT CRAP!?!?!?!?!?
STOP BEING GREEDY!
Well your wish just may come true.....
its good though if you dont plan on going through with the wedding...cause you still get a party
Such a great idea! ANyone want to get engaged to me? We can have a party and split the presents!
On a side note, my mother got engaged once and got all these presents and all and then she didn't marry the guy. Did she return the presents? When questioned she says she doesn't remember returning them.
i'm this close to engaging myself. burburry, manolo. =D
i thought me and u were already engaged!!!
WHAT?! you aren't dating me and bry anymore??
okay frest, the sister thing...that's just gross
good point but then again two girls being engaged...that's a little off as well doncha think?
yea, it is...but for some reason the lesbian (sorry if I'm not allowed to say that word on here) thing is A LITTLE more bearable thought than the sister thing
muahaha i was just trying to get you to say that lesbians were okay. another mission resulting in success.
by the way, it's all gross. one man, one woman.
hahaha...I didn't say it was okay...just more tolerable than incest
haha o man... this conversation can go no where good...
yeah i was going to say something else but ill just tell you girls later hah
forreste, u r so crude...
Oh yeah..heh heh..I forgot cause I ate my ring
U ATE THE ONLY SYMBOL OF OUR LOVE?!? "ur not my favorite person right now"... $10 to any one who can name what movie thats from WITHOUT the use of serch engines...
Sorry, I got hungry.
most people i know do engagement parties as a way for both sides of the family to meet. no presents, just family and they all make food or go do it at a restaurant.
You have a point. I completely agree. I hate mini-weddings. It's annoying.
haha mini-weddings. so true. when you go and there are numbers on the table, it's gone waayyy to far.
i went to one like that not too long ago. so pointless. WHY?? all the families knew each other already. AND i had to give a present.
presents are fun.....