yeah, it's a self esteem issue too. quite simply, girls want to be desired. and girls making the first move could make them seem "easy," especially if they make a lot of first moves. traditionally they'd prefer sit at the outskirts of the party and wait for a guy to show deep interest and usher them in. they want the guy to go out of their way and risk being denied to show that he's really serious about a relationship. yeah, a girl who makes the first move will always wonder if the dude is along for the ride or if he was just too shy make that initial move.

i tend to think the guy should make the first move. it's a self esteem issue on the guys side too. it feels good to take that chance and make known to the girl that you want a serious relationship. if she makes the first move it could make him doubt his headship and question who exactly is calling the shots. girls can certainly make the job easy for the guy, by not playing hard to get [i hate that saying] or sending mixed signals. if she's really serious about the guy, the girl should make the guys's task of inquiring about a relationship easy and least stressful as possible. it should never be a shot in th dark, on the guys part. in the end, i really think guys should suck it up and make that move if they want that friend to be something more.