Eating in front of Boys
by so the other day when i went out with some peeps to a diner, a friend ordered an odd meal (considering it was dinner time). half of a melon. fine. to each their own. but then she didn't eat any of it. that was more odd. i was trying to think of an explanation for this occurance. i only came up with one thought................She's afraid to eat in front of boys. Have you ever met these kinds of girls. i find it uterrly ridiculous. maybe just cuz i have a lot of guy friends and they've all seen me eat before (much to their dismay) but if i'm hungry why would i not eat because someone in the room has more testosterone than estrogen?? Maybe this is another reason girls are more aneroxic, they don't eat when guys are around. I'm not the neatest person when i eat but then again i do not eat so disgustingly that a guy would not want to be my friend anymore because of it.
one time after a convention we went out to eat and someone had one of those camereas where you can take about 30 seconds of video. so upon encouraging from SOMEONE they filmed me without my knowledge for 30 seconds while i was eating. just so they could re-watch it and continually make fun of me for it. and then they had proof!! horrible. but if you're with a bunch of guys do you honestly expect to just sit there and not get ripped apart????
so in conclusion i just wanted to ask if anyone else has gotten this anxiety of eating in front of boys?? also, guys how do you feel about pushing these poor girls to become aneroxic?>wink<
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yeah. there is no need to be disgusting and who sets out to do that. i think fear of disgusting a guy is the reason why some girls just completely do not eat at all.
its seriously hard to disgust a guy that likes you
I don't know, if I was interested in someone and she's smacking her lips, goodbye.
what if she was gorgeous and had the most gorgeous lips ou couldn't help but stare.....lol
Depends on her personality at that point. If she's got an awesome personality we'd see. But if I was seriously contemplating marrying this woman we'd have a talk about them smacking lips.
Personality > Looks
OF COURSE personality is a must....
Then does she have cute feet?
Uh ok yeah we'll give her cute feet....lol
I'm a foot guy, so cute feet are a bonus. If she's into me too I think she'd atleast work on it. Depending on how bad it was I'd tollerate it. Otherwise I'd just tell her that from now on she can only eat soup in front of me. :P
LOL yeah i have a thing for feet, my feet anyway. LOL since i'm usually wearing sandals or open toes, it's all about the pedicures!
there's always compromise for quirks! LOL
ahhh!!..feet are gross!..even the cute ones
Oh, you have much to learn. The foot is a wonderful thing. ;)
I agree. Feet are cool. People are unreasonably repulsed by feet. It's realy annoying to see someone make a scene about feet and preach thah they're gross. Grow up.
No no no! You grow up and realize that feet are just super-deformed hands.
Maybe it's because I have flat feet and the arch in a womans foot is so appealing to me. I just love feet, the toes, they're all so cute. And when a woman has a pedicure, very nice. :)
I have almost flat feet..so does this mean I have ugly man feet!?
haha, i don't think disliking feet is a sign of immaturity. I don't like feet...mine included, but i don't think that's going to change...does that mean i'll be immature forever?
if you HONESTLY hate feet then--thats you. but most people have donned this outlook on feet. it's not safe for ANYONE to take their shoes off without someone makin' a joke!
yeah, attraction can definately fade ones certain traits become apparent....i mean, there's a good amount of guys who would date a chick just cause she was hot, even if she annoyed the crap outa them..but..us ezabel men, we're on a higher plane of thought...haha
Here's my advice. Close your mouth.
A few years ago a my wife's friend joined us in Disney for a few days. I was ready to smack her by the 3rd meal. I just kept hearing the lips smack, smack, smack, I couldn't eat, it was disgusting.
Ewww, thats nasty....
man i hate that. if you can pig out with table manners, that's ok with me lol.
I agree. That makes me mad too. SO many people do it too. Sometimes, I wanna scream.
I'll have to remember that for future reference.
if u eat in front of boys i have some sage advice:
PRACTICE SAFE SNACKING!
use condiments.
har har
no woman can eat in front of eric clapton and yet see. i mean, i'm eric freaking clapton!
i have the remedy RIGHT here. how about we have a FEMALE rib eating contenst! all the girls, who don't like eating in front of boys, have to speedily consume pounds of BBQ rib meat in order to win some unrevealed prize, the catch: allll the eating will take place in front of a line of HOT men. someone make an event. this is definitely a loving provision for the girls.
i dont eat ribs can it be something else...wait i dont have an issue with this eating in front of guys business
we will give the vedgie-lovers corn on the cob and if you don't have an issue with munchin' in front of dudes....THEN YOU HAVE AN ADVANTAGE!
okay can we just do this after my roomie's wedding so i might still have a chance of looking decent in my dress
hahahahaha. this game sounds like soooo much fun. awesome idea.
I am SOOOOO in for that!
free food!? I'm in
woo hoo!!.count me in!!...wait
i can't eat in front of animals...dunno why, but it like turns my stomach...what's even sicker to me is people that can eat after their pets, like have your dog lick your ice cream, & then proceed to eat it, AHHHH!!..so groossssss
yo i love to eat. so i appreciate a woman who loves to eat. no need for a diet. that sucks. why take away stuff you enjoy? just work hard so you can enjoy it. so i appreciate a chick stuffing her face.. just getting it all dirtyyyyyyy
me too. i like to see a girl who can get her face dirty. i saw a little girl wreck a burger that was FAR to big for her mouth. i was like, "bless your soul, little lady"
my girlfriends and i jsut go to work on our food when we're out. We don't care if the guys are around. We're out we're having fun, we're human...
right on...i hate going out to diner & seeing a chick order a meal that consists of like a pepermint leaf, powdered sugar and a blueberry....pig out!..it's sexy!
word. just order a big fat steak and get that A1 sauce all in yoru eye and ear and who cares... just eat. eating is goooooooooooooooood
see, i hate when guys say this....cause they don't mean it. Most guys don't like fat girls...and a lot of girls have to diet or exercise to stay thin or even average (fortunately, i'm not speaking from experiance)...so, even though guys say they want girls to eat normal, they probably don't, because that would mean the girl would weigh more. Ugh...its late, and that sort of rambled a bit...but maybe that expressed my thought
And girls like fat guys? Honestly it goes both ways: neither sex is attracted to overweight people. That said, I think girls take their obsession with weight way too far.
good point...and i agree that a lot of girls are weight obsessed, but...although it sounds cliche, i think thats societies fault
p.s. existentialism
one more point for me!
You cheat!
wow, you are clever
clever enough for courtney to honor my point?
yeah, that was a good try
well, a girl doesn't like a skinny guy... a not so skinny guy is like a big teddy bear and girls LOVE that... but most guys don't even wanna go NEAR a not so skinny girl...
yes i was talking about this on sunday night. how many times do you see a hot girl with a big guy? a lot right?? and people always say oh he has money or whatever, but usually it's cus he's this big sweet lovable hugable stinkermuffin.
hmm, i like skinny guys more then bigger guys...my friends say the guys i like are too thin...but i think the guys they like are fat...different perceptions i guess
I enjoy the skinny fellas.
My best guy friend and I were talking about skinny girls v. curvy girls and which guys prefer, etc and he told me "only a dog likes a bone" i thought that was pretty clever!
and 100% true
hm, i disagree, and i disagree with the statement that girls like bigger guys....i don't...i like the thin ones! I think that certain people are attracted to curvy/muscular/bigger people...and then others are attracted to thin/toned people. It's just what people like, but i don't think there is a majority of people that go one way or the other...its just personal opinion.
AMEN...different strokes..for..different folks....I think though, that, everybody who thinks they have a "preference", there's always gonna be somebody out there, that's out side of what they think their preference is, that they would end up being attracted to, like an exception to the rule...Like, I never thought that I was attracted to girls of indian decent - not a prejudice, just, i never saw one that i found myself attracted to..then..this BEAUTIFUL indian girl started going to my higschool..dude, O MY GOD, talk about gorgeous...so..my point is..nothing's absolute
it's funny how we go over and over and over this. "different strokes." "we're all different." etc. i guess we forget and need to remind ourselves and each other on a regular basis.
yeah..I have a friend though who doesn't get this concept....he thinks his opinion, since it's the only one he can feel, is the only one that should exist - & everybody else has something wrong w/them..lol...it's pretty annoying
Speaking for myself, I don't think skinny girls are that attractive. I'd much rather look at a girl who's ten pounds overweight than 10 pounds underweight.
i do mean it. i love a chick who eats.. but if you look back at my comment.. i said.. why not work hard to enjoy it.
like stuff your face get hot sauce all in your eye.. but then dont go roll around in bed and sleep. you dont even have to exercise or anything. just use my 12 step program..
1. EAT EVERYTHING
2. DRINK WHATEVER YOU WANT
3. DANCE TIL 4am BURNING CALORIES
4. ???
5. ???
6. ???
7. ???
8. ???
9. ???
10. ???
11. ???
12. PROFIT!!!
is blinding girls with hot sauce a dating technique of yours? do all of your ex girlfriends wear an eye patch?
chicks dig hot sauce. i find eye patches sexy.. as long as there's a real eye under the patch.
hey, it's like an angry pirate!!
i dont knwo this story. and i am sad
HAHAHA, why is this even MENTIONED! hahahaha i wanna search ezabel and see how manytimes it has been posted.
shivver meeee timbers!
I can never eat in front of boys, and its a very, very wierd thing. I hope in the new system i'll be fixed, in the meantime Im doomed
hahahahah. this is complete lies!!!! i have seen you eat.
ha silly, your not a boy. and you saw me eat? Im completely ruined
oh yeah. i forgot i wasn't a guy.
you're plan still works
girls just don't want to be considered glutenous slobs in front of the opposite sex - they're scared it'll make'm less attractive..so i guess, some of ya'll chicks over compensate & end up not being able to eat @ all in front of guys..u women are silly, silly silly silly
I'm so "one of the guys" I've never had that problem. I luv to eat. I'm the girl sitting there looking all girly but can chow down a plate of nachos like no other! LOL
I do feel bad for the girls who can't eat, but it's just a form of their shyness. To each their own
I find this odd, because I have never once in my life thought about what i look like eating. Haha. And I usually do get it all over my face and/or clothing, so I probably SHOULDN'T eat in front of people but... food is SO GOOD!
hahaha. i am the same way. really i just feel bad for anyone who watches me eat. not the prettiest site. and i can NEVER wear white. spills!!!
the other day at my job (a restaurant) i was clearing off this table and we're required to wear white shirts. so i have this half full glass of red wine and i was walking it back to the bar and someone slapped my butt so hard that i jerked back and spilled it ALLLLLLL over my shirt and it bled through to the other white shirt underneath it. coordination and the color white and things i don't have &can't wear.
you mentioned someone slapping your butt like it was nothing, lol
it's pretty gross but its sad that i have. restaurant people are very touchy. it's not like a friendly thing it's like who can i give the biggest bruise to? i've seen people take running starts and wind up. frightening but that's the way it is here.
Sometimes if I'm around a guy that I like, I can't eat or eat my normal amount, but it's not because i'm nervous about him seeing me eat...its because I am really not hungry. Something about being around guys I like, makes adrenaline run through me so much, that i don't even need food. And, if I do eat it, i feel sick.
yeaaaa! exactly..i'd get a little self conscious in front of a guy i liked but mostly i just wouldnt eat cuz i'd be so happy/excited that i wouldnt be hungry. it was like that for a couple months w/ Austin...but i've pretty much gotten over it now..haha(sorry babe!) i eat when i'm hungry now. lol
s'that why you were stuffing your face last time we went out to eat?...haha....it works both ways
what? haha, i don't know what you are talking about. And if you're trying to make fun of me for eating a lot....i think it's a compliment.
"sigh"...I didn't think i'd have to explain this, lol...ok
YOU SAY..that when you're around a boy you like..you can't eat that much...
hence..
Being around a boy you didn't like, would, in theory, make you eat, MORE
sorry, reading about the bidirectionality of structure and function in cognitive learning seems to have fried my brain so that i can't even understand the easiest concepts. Call it a flaw of the modern education system, call it a flaw in my own intelligence, or don't call it a flaw at all.
That was the deepest thing you've ever said without using the word existential.
actually, that just sounded deep, lol
haha, you're just trying to get me to say existe....IT again, so you'll get more points
Wait..so this one doesn't count cause it's not the exact form?
No. It doesn't count cause it wasn't tinser who posted it.
yeah, only my posts count
yeah...i was just kidding around...it has to be fully spelled out...but any form of the word counts...even if it has typos, but not if its not fully spelled out
Do I do this? I don't even know if I do or not. There was this myth going around for a long time about how I never ate so for a while it was like a game and I every time I would eat when people were around pictures were taken. Right Julie? With me in my ugly orange fleece shoving a taco in my mouth. Maybe I do do this whole not eating thing without even knowing it..I wouldn't doubt it.
that is true. and there is video footage of it. its weird cuz i always remember you eating but i guess you didn't in front of the boys. odd.
i am totally like this... i can't eat in front of a guy that i like... i mean like my guy friends, i'm ok with, cuz if i didn't eat around them i would never eat... but if a guy is around that i like, i can't eat.. i'll just get a drink... and if i'm starving, i'll force my self to order something like french fries or some other finger food that i know i won't look dumb eating... i know that sounds retarded but i'm extremely self-concious and just can't get over it... maybe if i was more satisfied with my weight, then i wouldn't care about eating in front of people...
*shakes head* it's food. you're hungry. eat it. you know you want some cinnamon raisin toast with butter and cinnamon & sugar.
i kno! but i just can't get over it! o man, toast is SO good haha i'm addicted now! i finished that whole loaf of bread!
i wish i had a toaster =(
Hahaha....there are these silly girls in my hall who do this ALL the time. I've gone out with them when it's just the girls, and they pig out. But if there is even the slightest hint of a boy in the air, they will order a soda, and that's it. It's hilarious, like they are afraid the guys seeing them eat will disgust them. I can see how it would make someone self-conscious (think about how you look stuffing lettuce froma salad into your mouth), but everyone eats, so guys are most likely used to seeing it by now.
I did used to have a little anxiety about eating huge burgers in front of my husband when we were dating, like he'd think I looked gross shoving huge amounts of food into my mouth. So, I can sort of sympathize.
I actually used to have a thing about eating in front of ppl who weren't family. It made me nervous so much so that I had no desire to eat. Eating in front of guys was always out of the question (and my skinny friends). It was like I was thinking they were taking count of how much I was putting in my mouth and comparing it to the amount they had eaten. I sometimes still get weird like that, but not nearly as much. If I can be a hog in front of you and not be ashamed, it means I trust you.
i knew a girl like this. she was painfully self-concious. i felt bad. some girls just need to grow up a little.