n. crush :
by an intense and usually passing infatuation.
I hate that word.
Everytime I start to like someone I tell my mom exactly that : I like so-and-so. And of course the whole thing drives me nuts, all the not knowing and uncertainty but after I tell her my cute anecdotes blushing here and there, she always says:
"Aww, you have a crush!"
"No! it's not! Don't say that!" I retort.
Why do I hate that word? Because I don't want it to be passing. Because usually I really like the person for who they are and calling them a "crush" trivializes it. For me, if I like someone and it passes, it's because the connection isn't strong enough or wasn't there at all. Not because I threw myself into an unstable quandary of infactuation with no basis.
I don't wanna think of anyone that I like as being just a crush because that takes away the possibilty in it. And I'm a firm believer in:
anything can happen, but you won't know until you let it.
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hey alana how did that crush work out??
Its just, a little crush.
Not like i faint everytime we touch..
Well usually it is, almost always how it starts out, doesn't mean it will stay just infatuation but there is a very good possibility it is before it becomes more. But infatuation can be a dangerous thing if we don't recognise it for what it is. (If I'm just repeating something someone else has said I apologise but there's way too much here to catch up and read everything.)
my mom says the reason u know its a crush is how the person just seems perfect. and everything they do is perfect. like u never see their faults. cuz in love you can always see faults but u just choose to ignore them, talk about it later, or u yell about it.
i dunno lana, i think sometimes something that is not passing can start out as a crush..
OH MAN, i just crushed my fingers....
my biggest crush right now: JACK JOHNSON!!!
eff jack johnson
I will fight you for him. When his wife dies in a freak swimming accident I have it all planned out...
It's Jack or Tom Brady.
ugh tom brady. ugh uhg uhg uhguhguhg
Top 3 first crushes
The world may never know...
see the thing with a crush is this. the idea is much better than the actuality. i think that in your mind, atleast in my own experience, the idea of how it could be is SO much better than the realization that it is a passing thing. make sense? It took me awhile to come to that conclusion.
Yes, that does make sense. Stinks that the idea almost never becomes the actuality. And that your mind spends too much time thinking of the idea of so-and-so for it to never come to pass.
i aint a pimp, i just crush alot...
yea I'm sure Hahaha
ur mom
you really need a new line, hun. Stop following me around!
isn't it "i ain't a playa, i just crush a lot."?
yeah it is... mike's just a little slow
ur mom is a little slow.
Cute FWD I just got:
Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones
because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just take the rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy...
The apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the
right man to come along,
the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the
top of the tree. Share this with other women who are good apples, even those who have already been picked!
Now Men.... Men are like a fine wine. They begin as grapes, and it's up to women to stomp the crap out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with.
The first part is so true. Actually makes me sad 'cause a really great guy could miss out on an awesome girl (spiritual, smarts,funny, independant, sweet etc.) just...because.
The last part I dunno. Recently and very much to my suprise I'm finding there are actually some guys I'd consider good apples, not so rotten definately worth reaching for. ;-)
All I have to say is PAY ATTENTION GUYS/GIRLS!
Word.
You rock, I dig you.
TOTALLY BUMP
trust me guys only go for the shiny ones, no matter where they are on the tree.
The question on my end:
Some guys get so funky, if you get along with their mother.
From my stand point this doesn't necessarily mean you're trying to manipulate your way into the family. What's their deal?
I LOVE my friends parents...REALLY they're warm N squishy lots of fun!
yea she's right. she DOES love your parents if you're her friend. O man do you LOVE my mom. The Concerned Parent! lol...In case some of you dont understand..HER loving ur parents, isnt the same as it normally is when people love ur parents. cuz she REALLY does love them. its strange, but true
*clap-clap clap, clap-clap clap*
If you want it
You can have it
But you've got to learn to reach out there and grab it
Cuz everybody wants some love (Oh Baby)
Shooting from the stars above (Oh Baby)
And though my heart will break
There's more that I could take
I could never get enough
If you need it
You should show it
Cuz you might play so monastic that you blow it
Cuz everybody wants some hope (Oh Baby)
Something they can barely know (Oh Baby)
And though my heart will break
There's more that I could take
I could never let it go
It's in the photograph
It's in the photograph
It's in the photograph of love
Cuz everybody wants a dream (Oh Baby)
Something they can barely see (Oh Baby)
And though my heart will break
There's more that I could take
I could never let it be
If you blew it
Don't reject it
Just keep drawing up the plans and re-erect it
Just keep drawing up the plans and re-erect it
great song! but you forgot the oo-oo-oo. as in: "if you want it oo-oo-oo"
A crush is when you like someone and you don't know them..
when you like someone.. you at least know them.. talked to them..slept together..
something along that line
I agree actually. Crushes are for people you don't know well. If you know a person well and are trying VERY hard to mack on them and discern their feelings--THAT is NOT a crush.
WHAT is THAT then? lol
It's tyou rying to get your hook up on.
in what language?..lol Thanks for the clarification.
"It's you trying to get your hook up on" is what I meant. "Hook up on" means you're ready to handle some VERY SERIOUS BUSINESS, with NO HALF-STEPPIN', and it implies you're PREPARED TO MAKE LIFE CHANGING STEPS. THINK!
ok...by this def ive never had anything other than a crush. goodness, im such a late bloomer!
I had a crush once.
It was a pebble. I totally destroyed it into little stones.. called.. smaller pebbles.
HaHa! BamBam was all up IN your piece and you just couldn't take that.
(wow i'm the first guy to comment in here)
i hate to say it, but I have to agree with your mom on this one. Even though you like this person, I think its still a crush until something comes of it. Even though a crush is, yes, infatuation, it doesn't mean it doesn't have a basis or merit. Yes, a crush is temporary and will wear off after a while, but think of a couple thats been happily married for years. at one point, that might have started as a "crush". the crush has passed, but has since been replaced by something a whole lot more meaningful.
I totally see what you're saying...this is just my weird way of seeing things. I like it but no matter what, everything has it's inescapable down side.
I just feel that the word has negative conotation and I don't like it because when it passes I have to step back out of my perspective and start all over again:
"Awww you have a crush!"
"darnit!" Hahaha
saying crush sounds juvenile to you? i think there will come a time when you will get past that.
wow, I didn't say that but that's what I was thinkin. It's prolly cuz I am a juvenile haha and I have this complex. I'm always trying to prove myself and I never wanna seem like a youngin to my family. So there I am, kneeling at the feet of my mom persuading her and telling her how it could work out, in effect persuading myself..THAT'S IT! I just figured it out..perhaps I have too much faith in something before it unfolds.
youre not a juvenile, but you are in a growing/proving stage. right now, you are a lil sensitive about these issues but you will get past it. trust.
When i think of "crush" i just think it's someone who i find attractive and I KNOW i do not want a relationship with that person. you know how many crushes i have here at work alone? LOL makes the day oh so interesting.
BUT when you're seriously interested in the person, i agree in not calling it a crush because you want to get to know this person on a deeper level.
yeah, this is exactly what i think. if a person is cute, but thats your only basis...then its a crush.
Exactly!! You can have crushes and they don't mean anything save maybe an appreciation for someone's appearance and personality but not them as a person overall. Like..you'd never consider seriously dating them -ever-.
Well that's precisely it-when I tell her I may be considering someone and she says "aww, you have a crush!" I'm like, "Nonono." lol
tell your mom when you're interested in a particular brother, it's coming from your heart not your horomones. LOL
LOL she won't believe me! haha
aww! you rock. i loved your use of the word "prospect" this weekend. that is such a descriptive noun for the situation. LOVE IT!!!
or contender
"Ooooo a race? I hope I win!"
EXACTLY